Join me  in my interview I had with Jennifer Kaylo on her podcast, The Open Bedroom (ahem, I HIGHLY recommend!) In this episode, I share my story of moving from a space of confusion, frustration, and shame to growing my confidence and curiosity.  In this podcast:03:00 - My journey09:55 - Stumbling upon a podcast about conscious uncoupling14:50 - From black and white to a colorful marriage life15:00 - Following the breadcrumbs of curiosity19:55 - The clarity of getting to know my sexual self… And knowing that I am not responsible for him, I’m just responsible to him.23:00 - The moment of awakening32:10 - Surrendering and learning to listen to your body is the best thing you can do35:00 - Midlife crisis to midlife magic39:00 - Learning about my erotic blueprint. Erotic Blueprint Quiz47:30 - My husband’s breakthrough51:10 - It all with intention, nothing is by accident54:30 - You don’t have to do it alone… Finding a community to work throughSexually Speaking podcast episode with Jen: Consciously Uncoupling with Jennifer Kaylo RuscinBooks mentioned:Come as You AreThe Power of NowWise PowerSexually WokeHow to Do The WorkFollow Jen for moreJennifer’s podcast: The Open Bedroom PodcastSupport the show

Lindsey Hall is an Intimacy and Empowerment Coach who supports women to deepen their intimacy with self & others, own their power & their pleasure, and live the joyful life they love!Lindsey spent 12 years in the world of corporate accounting where listening to your intuition and prioritizing your pleasure are not exactly encouraged, so now she is passionate about helping women bring more pleasure to their daily lives and peeling back the layers of shame and social conditioning that prevent us from living our fully empowered lives. She hates small talk and elephants in the room and much prefers to dive in deep talking about the things that are maybe scary but ultimately so important and healing to talk about!After going through her divorce during lockdown with two tiny children, she specializes in supporting women emotionally through the divorce process and beyond, including dating and co-parenting - which are both pretty big adventures!In this podcast:03:30 - Lindsey’s story10:50 - Lindsey's healing process12:30 - Learning how to step back and listen more13:00 - Support from a coach17:30 - Self-pleasure class21:00 - The BJ Class23:00 - Lindsey’s experience in divorce and dating25:00 - It’s not my job to look out for every hurt that may come26:50 - Maintaining the work Lindsay has done30:30 - Voicing my desiresLindsey's Website: Lindsey Hall Coaches Support the show

The parts of you who desire a life based in liberation, love, and leadership can find a home in Katrin’s world.Katrin is a sexual liberation mentor who has overcome painful sex and continues supporting women in releasing vaginismus's protective body response. She deeply understands how survival strategies of the mind and subtle protective mechanisms of the body can make the freedom you crave seem out of reach.She has led herself off the beaten path back to her authentic self and now helps you do the same. In sex, love, relationships, and entrepreneurship! Katrin believes that your power is born out of your deepest pain and that the Liberated & In Love Woman within you already has all the answers to guide you in your personal reclamation. She is here to love you as you re-discover your unique signature of play, pleasure, and purpose. She gently calls you into your zone of genius and lifts you up as you bravely build your legacy from that place of aliveness and erotic overflow.In this episode:01:00 - Katrin’s story08:30 - How does Katrin support people who are also going through painful sex11:00 -  Why we should stop using the term sexual dysfunction 16:00 - Treating vaginismus19:00 - The Erotic Blueprints23:00 - Vaginismus is a defense response24:00 - How to practice surrendering in the bedroom28:00 - The physical healing journey33:00 - The show - Sex, Love, and Goop39:00 - Why people may experience vaginismus44:00 - Trauma and vaginismus47:00 - Katrin’s free course about vaginismus48:00 - Katrin’s life after vaginismusKatrin’s free course - Putting Vaginismus in the Past - https://www.katrinwithlove.com/Get your erotic blueprint at: https://missjaiya.com/Support the show

I’d like you all to welcome my new friend Emily Sabo! Emily Sabo is a linguist, a Ph.D. speaker, a TEDx speaker, a dancer, a choreographer, and the CEO of Full Body Feels, a feel-good dance fitness company.Originally from Pittsburgh, we are so lucky to have Emily now in Knoxville, Tennessee, and she's here to celebrate feminine energy through dance, yoga, and community.Hear her story on how she came full circle in using dance as medicine and why she thinks others should too! In this podcast episode:02:30 - What did life look like for Emily before Full Body Feels?12:00 - How many languages does she speak?!15:00 - Emily’s mental health experiences26:00 - Where the magic happens to learn about your body28:00 - Emily’s relationship with her husband and the biggest change in her life34:00 - Movement meditation with EmilyVisit Emily on:emilysabo.comFollow on IG: @fullbodyfeelsSupport the show

My guests today are Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr. Glenn was determined to find out what went wrong so he went back to school and became a marriage and family therapist and a clinical sexologist. But it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. On the other side of the pain that they went through, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis created the Connection Codes,  a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their four-minute tool. Now they are authors, speakers, and have connection coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships. I hope you all enjoy this beautiful story as much as I did! In this episode:01:00 - Dr. Glenn and Phyllis’ story05:00 - A traumatic and disappointing first sexual experience10:30 - We may think other couples are doing great20:50 - A couple's pivotal moment: a comment about unloading the dishwasher leads to the discovery26:00 - Tools or books Dr. Glenn and Phyllis read to improve their intimacy?33:00 - The Core Emotion WheelOn Instagram: @Connectioncodes        Go to the website: connectioncodes.co/shannonUse code: SHANNON20 for 20% off our Foundations courseSupport the show

Everyone meet my BA friend, Jesse Akister! Jess shares her journey of understanding her body, mind, and soul. She highlights how our body responds to stress and trauma and how it can manifest in our daily lives, even in our relationships. Jesse is the Co-founder and COO of Sherolife, the first women’s holistic fitness community in UAE founded in Dubai in 2019. She is also a multi-awarded athlete in CrossFit and Powerlifting.In this episode:01:40 - CrossFit and Powerlifter Jesse04:50 - Jesse's life before 11:20 - Jesse's relationships during training14:00 - The Polyvagal theory19:30 - Jesse's training applying polyvagal theory29:00 - Jesse uncovering her desires  31:00 - The Will Want Won't list34:00 - Other material resources 38:00 - Breaking down feminine and masculine energy 43:00 - Tips on meditating 47:50 - Listener's takeawayFind Jesse on IG: @jesseakisterSherolife Offerings: @thesherolifeSupport the show

After a couple of years of feeling like a fan girl trying to connect with Whitni Miller, aka BDE.Moves, I finally got to talk with her! Whitni is an amazing human who is creating sexy content with tangible tools for all people to implement! Whitni Miller is a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator. She loves to create direct, assuring, shame-free sex education content on TikTok, Instagram, and Patreon. She also works with clients 1:1 and in couples setting to help them obtain their pleasure goals.She is very passionate about pleasure-based sex in our performance mindset world!In this episode:02:10 - How did Whitni get into sex education?09:00 - Encouraging exploring pleasure for women09:30 - Top 3 reasons why couples stop having sex12:00 - Patriarchy is bad for both men and women14:40 - Unlearning ‘performance-based’ mindset in sex18:00 - Changing the way you self-pleasure can change the way you have sex22:00 - Being intentional in sex and self-pleasure25:00 - Definition of sex for Whitni29:00 - Whitni's Patreon (You must check it out!)  Find Whitni on Instagram @bde.moves Patreon: bdemovesSupport the show

Have you found yourself in the same patterns of behavior or frustration and ever wondered, "WHY AM I HERE AGAIN?!" My guest for this conversation can help you uncover the answer to that question! Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Somatic Coach, and the Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™. (Yes, the retreat that Steve attended 2 years ago that I have mentioned in several episodes!) For over 7 yrs she’s guided her clients through the process of mastering the wisdom of their bodies and emotions to choose to live the life they desire with ease, instead of force and sacrifice.With 18 years of experience in developmental work and years of study as a trauma-informed coach, Anat has combined mindset, somatic healing, and inner child re-parenting to create Training Camp for the Soul Method™.Anat considers it her mission to help people thrive, live a life where they feel connected and safe within and with others, and reclaim their power to be the creators of their reality.She has guided hundreds through the TCS™ Method. Marriages, books, businesses, fulfilling lives, and babies have all been created by her clients working with her.In this episode:05:40 - What is Training Camp for the Soul?06:50 - You are the Director of your movie, you can edit the script08:40 - How the inherited script affects your sexuality and intimacy19:00 - What it means to be "hijacked" into a role22:40 - What did healing look like for Anat?30:00 - Building sexual energy in self 30:45 - Grieve the thought of fears coming true36:00 - Your relationship is like a garden40:00 - More about Anat's programs and the TCS retreat46:36 - The way that therapy, coaching, and retreats play in self-development49:40 - Practicing gratitude and humilityYou can find Anat here:Instagram: @anat.periJoin us at the retreat in June here:trainingcampforthesoul.com/retreatUse the code "friendsandfamily" for a discountSupport the show

Breaking up is hard to do, but it can be done with love, respect, and dignity. Jennifer Kaylor Ruscin helps you create a breakup that leaves you and your partner feeling good, where you're both excited about the next phase of your lives.Jennifer is a mom to 2 teenage boys, partner to Scott, multi-million dollar revenue generator of a sales & marketing firm, podcast host, & sex and relationship coach.In this podcast episode:03:00 - What is conscious uncoupling?06:00 - Jen's experience with conscious uncoupling10:30 - Doing things differently while practicing conscious uncoupling12:00 - What kind of emotional support did Jen get when she was having the divorce from her husband?13:40 - How Jen found her second husband19:30 - Conscious uncoupling on an emotional scale25:00 - How do you tell to the kids?31:40 - Additional resources about conscious uncoupling34:00 - If you are thinking about breaking up with your partnerSupport the show

We have Leighanna Nordstrom back by popular demand! Today we are talking about a very controversial and complicated topic - affairs. More specifically, why do they happen, and how do you move toward healing and repair? Leighanna is the owner of Break the Mold Therapy, a virtual private practice in Colorado. She is a relationship and sex therapist who specializes in betrayal repairs, kink/BDSM, non-monogamy, and queer issues. Her goal is to help people unlearn problematic beliefs, values, and patterns by exploring the truths around sex positivity and wellness in a safe and non-judgmental way.If you have friends or loved ones facing this challenge, please share this episode!In this podcast episode:03:00 - What is an affair?04:50 - What causes an affair? 11:30 - What leads someone to have an affair?14:00 - What Affair Repair looks like18:30 - Practicing relationships is practicing communication20:30 - 5 major Don'ts after an affair29:00 - Nobody knows enough to pass judgment35:00 - Your pleasure is your responsibility37:00 - Steps to recovering from an affair43:00 - Top 5 Do's in Affair Repair58:00 - The last powerful takeaway01:00:30 - Leighanna's programsYou can reach Leighanna Nordstrom on:www.breakthemoldtherapy.comSupport the show

Shhhh....your body is speaking to you! What is your internal wisdom saying?! My friend, Bonnie Casamassima is going to help us understand how our intuition can help us connect to our desires and unleash more passion and pleasure!Bonnie is a researcher, professor, and highly sensitive intuitive empath. You know that song, “I’m a little bit country AND A Little Bit Rock+Roll?” Well, “She is a little bit Researcher AND a little bit woo”.She gives 110% in supporting the people she works with every day in connecting with their own intuition through research, mediumship channeling, and consulting on the psychology of the design of their everyday spaces.She has a Bachelor of Science in Interior Design from The University of Tennessee at Knoxville. She also has a Master of Fine Arts in Interior Design focusing on Environmental Psychology and Biophilic Design from Savannah College of Art and Design where she taught Graduate students. Additionally, she has completed two 500+ hour trainings honing her highly sensitive intuitive mediumship abilities. Bonnie is an amazing human being and I cannot wait for you to hear from her! In this podcast episode:05:50 - The New Year, New Moon experience08:00 - What was Bonnie’s life before she started listening to her intuition and prioritizing play, pleasure, and sexuality12:00 - Bonnie on spreadsheet decisions 15:30 - Tuning in on your body’s intuition and developing self-trust19:00 - Bonnie in the bedroom before20:30 - Listening to your intuition26:00 - Calming your mind and connecting to your intuition34:00 - Being your most authentic self37:00 - Bonnie's life now41:30 - Connecting with your partner43:00 - Bonnie’s programsYou can find Bonnie at:intuitivebynature.comFollow her on IG @intuitive_by_nature         Follow Shannon HEREFollow her on IG @shannonhamaker                      Join the Couples Collective here.Support the show

Steve is back! We break down our Top 5 celebrations from 2022 and what we are leaving behind. In an effort to help others we share what worked for us in creating a stronger, more connected partnership. YAYS (What are we celebrating?)Commitment to Personal GrowthRelationship Check-In’s Couples RetreatsCouples Mastermind Thrive Couples ClassIn this podcast episode:01:10 - The podcasts we listen to and fuel our journey01:50 - #1 Continual commitment to personal growth02:50 - Steve’s personal growth journey05:00 - Guilt in doing or buying stuff for yourself15:10 - #2 Consistent relationship check-ins21:00 - Relationship check-ins on the fly28:00 - #3 The couple’s retreats33:40 - #4 The couple’s masterminds36:20 - Family constellation41:30 - The Couple’s Collective at the beginning of FebruaryJoin the Couple’s Collective here: https://bit.ly/CouplesCollectiveWork with Shannon! Shannonhamaker.comSupport the show

In our first episode of the year, I have my friend Amanda Curry who will be co-facilitating a women's retreat with me in April with me. I am so honored that she will be joining me and I cannot wait for you to hear her powerful story of transformation and healing.Amanda Curry is a trauma-informed Doctor of Physical Therapy, Certified Oncology Specialist, Training Camp for the Soul™ Master FacilitatorAmanda has a fierce commitment to supporting those who struggle with feeling they are “ too much” and are tired of living in shame and denial of their true essence.In this podcast episode:04:20 - Amanda’s experience at the Training Camp for the Soul07:40 - Amanda and Steve parallels09:50 - What did Amanda’s relationship look like before healing15:00 - The before and after of working with a sex coach24:30 - Amanda’s ways regulate her nervous system31:00 - Supporting her husband and the men in her life41:30 - Why community is essential and how you can find community- Find Amanda at @somaticdpt on Instagram - Check out Training Camp for the Soul here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/- Women's Retreat in April Support the show

Please welcome, Caroline Burkholder, MS, RD, LD, a registered dietitian nutritionist in Knoxville, TN. She is the owner of RootED Nutrition and Counseling.We cover the topics of intuitive eating, recovering your relationship with food, how to model a positive relationship with food to your kids, and how intuitive eating teCaroline became interested in nutrition counseling when she was a collegiate athlete, and her coach consistently shared scientifically unfounded messages about how to fuel for sport. Most of these messages actually encouraged restrictive and disordered tendencies. It became clear to Caroline how important it was for female athletes to have empirically founded nutrition information delivered in a safe and nurturing format. Caroline continues to participate in athletics; she is a mountain biker and an endurance runner. Her practice is heavily informed by her lived experience as an athlete.In this podcast episode:01:35 - Caroline’s story on how she got into nutrition counseling06:00 - Recovering your relationship with food08:30 - How to model a positive relationship with food to your kids13:00 - Caroline’s relationship with food before16:50 - What is intuitive eating and how do you practice it?23:00 - Keeping a food journal28:00 - Letting go and accepting that your body’s going to change33:00 - You are allowed to gain weight37:00 - Finding your middle39:00 - The enneagramYou can find Caroline at:https://www.rootednutritionandcounseling.com/Instagram at @root_ednutritionSupport the show

Have you had a lingering sense that you are different than other women? Do you feel like you start projects with full force, only to fizzle out and not complete it? Does your partner get frustrated when you can't find your keys or you get distracted during s*x? Have a listen! Linda is going to share some incredible insight from her lived experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in mid-life. She also shares the superpowers it has given her and how we can look at the benefits of having this neurodiversity, as challenging as it can be! Linda Roggli is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), an award-winning author, and founder of the A-D-Diva Network for ADHD women 40-and-better. She is recognized internationally as an expert in midlife and senior ADHD. She created the ADHD Palooza series which now includes ADHD Women, ADHD Parents, and ADHD Couples. She regularly hosts workshops, organizing groups and retreats for ADHD women.Linda’s book Confessions of an ADDiva-midlife in the non-linear lane won first prize for women’s issues in the prestigious Next Generation Indy Book Awards competition. Order an autographed copy at http://shopaddiva.comIs there an offer you would like to give the listeners? : Free download from the ADHD Couples' PaloozaWhere can they find you to get in touch?: http://addiva.net and http://adhdpalooza.comIn this podcast episode:02:30 - Linda’s story - how she discovered ADHD05:30 - What helps our neurons make connections08:30 - Linda’s superpower as a woman with ADHD14:30 - How can we be good role models to our kids in taking care of ourselves as parents with ADHD22:30 - ADHD, impulsivity, intimacy, and your relationships38:00 - The impostor syndrome41:30 - The Couple’s Palooza45:30 - Where do you go if you think you have ADHD?You can find Linda Rogley on:https://addiva.net/Resources:

If you are here for a comprehensive checklist of all the ways you can get through menopause unscathed by all the dreaded symptoms you have heard about…I hate to break it to you, you won’t find that here. But I have some more exciting news for you….  when you listen to this episode with curiosity and an open mind and heart, you may find that you feel empowered and dare I say excited about this transitional time in your life. Especially when you hear this conversation with Alexandra and Sjanie, co-founders of the Red School. Alexandra and Sjanie are also the co-authors of the iconic and celebrated book from Hay House, Wild Power: discover the magic of the menstrual cycle and awaken the feminine path to power and they just released their latest book Wise Power: Discover the liberating power of menopause to awaken authority, purpose, and belonging.They are pioneering the newly emerging field of menstruality, creating a new lexicon and approach to women’s health and well-being; creativity and leadership; and spiritual life based on the power of our menstruality consciousness. Between them, they bring over 45 years of experience. And today they teach worldwide on the psycho-spiritual process of maturation that unfolds from menarche to menopause and beyond. They’re committed to training the menstruality leaders of the future.www.redschool.netAnd our 6 week live online menopause course, which starts on November 2nd is Menopause: The Great Awakener www.redschoolmenopause.comThank you so much for listening! Share the love by sharing the podcast! And share your reviews and comments on the platform you listened to this episode on. If you would like to contact me about upcoming coaching, workshops, or transformative retreats, you can go to my website at ShannonHamaker.com This episode was edited by Travis Tench at Oak Hill Audio and scored using musing by his band Tinca Tinca. Support the show

Today we have Dakota Russell who is graduate of East Tennessee State University. We talk about STIs and sex education in schools is important. Dakota shares the importance of having these conversations and about her upcoming program offered online called, “How to Talk about the Talk,” aka “HTAT.” You can register for this program at this link:https://forms.gle/iDScSDGeSy42Ria76 In this Episode:02:00 - STD vs STI03:50 - How did Dakota become a student who wanted to study about STIs and educating parents about it?04:50 - Dakota’s programs for sex education08:45 - The stigma on women and sex education14:30 - Teaching the proper ways to have sex to prevent suicide rates16:30 - Sex education FAQs19:00 - Teen pregnancies22:00 - The high chlamydia and gonorrhea rates in Tennessee24:00 - How does high STI rates affect relationships?Support the show

Welcome to Sexually Speaking with Shannon! For today’s episode, we have Brianna and Mark Carey. Brianna has been in the sexual health field for 14 years and is a Relationship & Intimacy coach. Mark is a Licensed Professional Counselor and has been running his own private practice for the past 6 years. Together with Steve, they talk about postpartum depression and how to work through its challenges. Brianna and Mark also share some ways to reconnect with your partner after having kids and how the 3-2-1 dating guide they created has helped them.In this episode:02:55 – Who are Mark and Brianna?06:55 – What is dad postpartum depression?11:25 – Brianna talks about her work and how she helps her clients reconnect with their partners.15:00 – Brianna and Mark share their experience reconnecting with each other.18:30 – Mark shares men’s perspective on things.21:20 – What are some of the things that Brianna and Mark do to stay connected?27:20 – What are some signs of postpartum depression for dads?32:20 – What are some resources to help with postpartum depression?39:10 – Shannon talks about their couple’s retreat.Steve and Shannon’s couple’s retreat experience: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8xNzIwMDQ4LnJzcw/episode/QnV6enNwcm91dC0xMDg4NDczMw?hl=en-PH&ved=2ahUKEwi8_eXngNP5AhXEDd4KHQ-ABrYQieUEegQIAhAO&ep=6Intimacy Evolution Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/387cWiLrs03L6jL7wTT33gSupport the show

It’s all things Menstrual Cycle on Sexually Speaking with Shannon! In this episode, Shannon dispels the myths and mystery behind the cycle and why it is incredibly important to live your best life. Whether it is planning how you are going to work out, what you are going to eat to support where you are in your cycle or when you are going to plan on having s3xy time, understanding your body is one of the most impactful things you can embrace and understand to have more access to pleasure. In this episode:01:15 – Myths about the menstrual cycle 03:55 – Books that helped Shannon be more in tune with her bodyWoman Code: https://amzn.to/3QjVWbrIn the Flo: https://amzn.to/3SpmLNi04:35 – The four seasons of the menstrual cycle and their corresponding energy05:05 – What is infradian rhythm?09:30 – Phase 1, the follicular phase12:25 – Phase 2, the ovulatory phase15:50 – Phase 3, luteal phase20:35 – Phase 4, menstrual phase25:05 – Why is it important to track your cycle?The Flo Living Website: https://www.floliving.com/27:15 – What are the effects of birth control in your cycle?28:35 – Ways to track your menstrual cycleWould you like to schedule a free discovery session with Shannon? Go here: https://calendly.com/shannonhamakerWant to see all the offerings Shannon has? Check out her website:https://bit.ly/ShannonHamakerSupport the show

Midlife shouldn’t be a crisis! For today’s Sexually Speaking with Shannon, she is joined by Jo squires. Jo is an endearing, fun-spirited Midlife Coach and the founder of the Midlife Clarity Club Facebook group.  They discuss what really is midlife and menopause is all about and the clarity and joy you can find. Jo shares her journey and experience with some of the most common challenges including depression and how to find clarity and compassion with yourself as you move through this time. In this episode:00:50 – How did Jo become a midlife clarity coach?04:45 – The difference - Jo at 40 and Jo at 5106:15 – Jo shares having depression and how she overcame it08:00 – Jo shares her career in finance10:30 – Jo talks about her past relationships and the patterns that she’d observed17:20 – What are the tools that helped Jo love herself and encourage her clients to do the same?20:00 – The importance of having your values and sticking to them.22:20 – Boundaries and how having them can help you25:40 – Midlife and going through it28:40 – The different tests you can take to track your menopausal stage30:30 – What is brain fog?32:50 – Jo shares her group members’ reactions and the comfort that journaling gives her36:10 – Jo’s program - Your Journey To Health and Happiness and how it can benefit youJo’s Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifeclarityclub.jo.squires/Jo’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-squires-4474b6119/?originalSubdomain=ukSupport the show