Study envy to find messages from our future selvesWe unpack the role of envy, not as a toxic emotion to be avoided or ashamed of, but a normal feeling that gives us clues to understanding our unmet desires, unfulfilled potential, and prompting necessary change.envy vs jealousy. Jealousy is possessiveness, envy is wanting what others have, or wanting to be thembecoming less envious of others as we get olderthe emptiness at the heart of existence remains in place no matter who we are or what we havehouse prices, salaries, wealth distributioncomplex, changing feelings, hiding then reveal the path to self-growthfitting in vs standing outbeing the object of envybeing envious of contemporaries, such as friends, people we went to school or work withhaving envy towards our own partnersbike shorts/yoga pants: acceptable clothing for everyone?getting beneath the surface of desire, wanting a greater sense of freedomgender and clothing: do women have greater freedom in terms of clothing?'painful but necessary steps'Ali's dream of growing more of her own foodself-envy, a 'better version of ourself' from the pastJoe's epic case of personal envy towards a contemporary therapy: like cleaning a mirror, with the image becoming clearer over time. daily transformations that count towards personal growththe importance of casual conversations for therapeutic valueCreators & Guests Ali Catramados - Host Joe Loh - Host Sam Ellis - Host (00:00) - Introduction and Welcome (00:28) - Discussing Alain de Botton's Quote on Envy (01:41) - Understanding Envy and Jealousy (02:05) - Personal Experiences with Envy (02:48) - Envy and Lifestyle Aspirations (03:24) - Debate on Work and Lifestyle (05:30) - Envy in Youth and Adulthood (05:55) - Envy and Money (08:49) - Envy of partners in relationships (11:32) - Envy and Personal Style (29:16) - The Illusion of Success (29:24) - The Changing Landscape of Attainable Dreams (30:04) - The Struggle with Identity and Expectations (30:20) - The Reality of Career Success (31:20) - The Shift in Perception of Wealth and Success (32:32) - The Struggle with Personal Limitations (33:34) - The Reality of Life's Unpredictability (34:30) - The Desire for Freedom from Wage Slavery (35:12) - The Struggle with Self-Blame and Helplessness (37:36) - The Journey Towards Self-Reliance and Acceptance (42:31) - The Power of Reflection and Self-Understanding 00:00 Theme, intro00:28 Alain de Botton's Quote on Envy01:41 Understanding Envy and Jealousy02:05 Personal Experiences with Envy02:48 Envy and Lifestyle Aspirations03:24 Debate on Work and Lifestyle05:30 Envy in Youth and Adulthood05:55 Envy and Money08:49 Envy of partners in relationships11:32 Envy and Personal Style29:16 The Illusion of Success29:24 The Changing Landscape of Attainable Dreams30:04 The Struggle with Identity and Expectations30:20 The Reality of Career Success31:20 The Shift in Perception of Wealth and Success32:32 The Struggle with Personal Limitations33:34 The Reality of Life's Unpredictability34:30 The Desire for Freedom from Wage Slavery35:12 The Struggle with Self-Blame and Helplessness37:36 The Journey Towards Self-Reliance and Acceptance42:31 The Power of Reflection and Self-Understanding