With safety at stake, dogs pose a challenge to principles of connection and non-coercion. Dogs can be scary! So what happens when, instead of seeing “bad” behavior, we see anxiety and plea for help? Anita from Brave Dog Training Online shares her journey toward trusting relationships and trauma-informed dog training.Time Stamps6:24 Psychology of trauma-informed human and dog relationships21:21 Anita's story of adopting Sammy, her rescue dog25:47 From coercion and abuse in childhood to collaborative dog training42:51 Training examples58:27 Quick tips1:05:33 Trust, trauma, and healingShow notesBrave Dog Training Online on youtube, including Anita's Deep dive on reactivityAnita's website and podcast: “A Dog’s Soul: An Empath’s Guide to Your Dog’s Feelings”Free leash reactivity course, as well as marker signals and muzzles.EMDR for dogsFree Bonus content: Dog pictures! and a tribute to SammyPaid Patreon bonus: video of Anita meeting Toast, plus Kaitlin and Anita talking parenting, love, and grief.Relationships that are neither invasive nor evasive is from Parker J Palmer’s book, A Hidden Wholeness, referenced by Lee in Season 1 Episode 8.“Rilke’s image of love offers us a third possibility. Instead of fixing up, or letting down, people who have a problem, we stand with simple attentiveness at the borders of their solitude—trusting that they have within themselves whatever resources they need and that our attentiveness can help bring those resources into play.A circle of trust consists of relationships that are neither invasive nor evasive. In this space, we neither invade the mystery of another’s true self nor evade another’s struggles. We stay present to each other without wavering, while stifling any impulse to fix each other up.” (64)Support Untangling Ourselves by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/untangling-ourselves Find out more at https://untanglingourselves.com This podcast is powered by Pinecast. Try Pinecast for free, forever, no credit card required. If you decide to upgrade, use coupon code r-c49ec3 for 40% off for 4 months, and support Untangling Ourselves.Read transcript