In this episode of The Relaxed Male, we delve into the complex world of expectations and how they shape our reactions and relationships. Host Bryan Goodwin shares personal insights from his recent experiences with unrealized expectations, particularly in the context of a social media workshop that didn't meet his expectations. He discusses the common pitfalls of unvoiced expectations and covert contracts, especially in personal relationships, and how they can lead to frustration and resentment. Bryan recounts his journey through a social media masterclass, where he anticipated gaining valuable insights but instead encountered a sales pitch that left him feeling shortchanged. This experience led him to reflect on the importance of managing expectations and the role they play in our emotional responses. Throughout the episode, Bryan emphasizes the significance of understanding and articulating our expectations, both to ourselves and others, to avoid unnecessary disappointment. He also highlights the value of thought downloads as a tool for examining our thoughts and expectations. Listeners are encouraged to explore their own expectations and consider how they might be impacting their relationships and personal growth. Bryan offers a free month of coaching to help men navigate these challenges and improve their relationships with themselves and others.

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The Relaxed Male is a podcast dedicated to empowering men to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. Whether it's romantic partnerships, family bonds, friendships, or professional connections, this show provides insights and actionable advice for building and maintaining positive relationships grounded in mutual understanding, respect, and care. Each episode delves into the unique challenges and opportunities men face when it comes to fostering meaningful connections. The host Bryan assists men in understanding how the elements of how one approaches a problem can hinder relationship growth. Through thought-provoking discussions, real-life examples, and practical exercises, listeners gain valuable tools to improve their listening skills, empathy, vulnerability and thoughts needed for building trust and intimacy with those around them. The show also covers the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and taking responsibility for one's actions and their impact on others. Ultimately, The Relaxed Male aims to empower men to have strong relationships without sacrificing who they are in the process. Helping men to live a fulfilling life with strong meaning ful relationships and stay out of the victim trap So if you're ready to level up your relationship game and cultivate deeper, more authentic connections, tune in and join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth.

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Handling the Expectations

Introduction to Unrealized Expectations

The Problem with Expectations

Social Media Marketing Experience

The Masterclass Disappointment

Lessons Learned and Self-Reflection

The Importance of Realistic Expectations

Coaching and Personal Growth

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And maybe this is something that the God or universe or whatever it is you wanna call it actually was trying to tap me on the head and say, Hey dude, you're, you're missing all missing the point. This is what you need to, what you need to grab from it. First off, I did learn some small nuggets. Second of all, I learned that, yeah, I am doing I am succeeding somewhat, not to the level that I would like. My expectations of what I wanted to succeed at are not at the same level as what I'm actually learning or or growing, but that's a that's a thought problem that I have to work on.

If you want help on realizing what these expectations are, I invite you to do a really simple three step process, and that process is to go to relaxmail.com/trycoaching. Set up a time that would work for you to be coached, and you will get a full month free of coaching. Just you, me, for an hour, we talk it out, we work through things, and we see what it is, what that expectation is, why that expectation, whatever that problem is.

And and it centers around something we struggle with on a very regular basis. And this is often where a lot of our frustration, our anger, even our resentment and sense of victimhood comes from. Because we often go through life, and we have expectations, and it's alright to have expectations. The issue that we run into with these expectations is often, one, we don't realize we're what we're expecting. And then when that expectation doesn't show up, we we get angry.

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