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Developing Better Connections

Episode Summary

Why even have a stronger connection?Better conflict resolution - You will have conflicts and those conflicts can be making or breaking points for your relationship.More trust - When you both know you will not take everything said personally then the trust starts to form.More intimacy -Us guys do like our sexy timeBetter connectionsIt is not personal, it is just someone sharing what they are thinking with the other person. It isn't real it is just a thought. Thoughts aren't as scary as you would like to believe.It’s not life and death. It is just talking and at times with the volume turned up a bit.Stop managing the other person's emotions That destroys trustIt’s ok if they get upset it is their emotions that were created by their own thoughts.Understand that you and your spouse are just sharing thoughts. https://alchemy-of-love.com/expert-relationship-advice/how-to-communicate-relationshipAsk questions - How else are you going to learn about your wife?Stop trying to be vulnerable with her and just be present - She doesn't want your emotional weaknesses. She wants you to be strong for her and the kids.If she asks how you feel tell her, but don’t just throw it all at her for her to try to sort outHow do you have better connections?How you have better connections isn’t as easy as just doing it you have to work on your thoughts and get your thoughts and beliefs in order. Because if you don't then you will find yourself in a battle instead of having a discussion that will make your connections stronger. When you are able to have the hard uncomfortable discussions your wife will come to understand you better and you will understand her better too. Then the strength of the connection grows and the marriage that you have wanted from the beginning will start to appear. But it will never happen till you start working on yourself. That takes the next step. If you would like to reclaim your bride and leave the mediocrity of roommate syndrome behind, then it is time to take the next step.Take The Next Step
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  • When you can have a discussion and that discussion be con a type of conflict, and you can resolve it without one running away or run one run-in the opposite direction or both y'all running away or both y'all sitting there becoming anxiously attached to each other, you can have a better connection.
  • We try to try to do what needs to be done, yet where our fears and our anxieties get in the way, and it keeps us from stepping into that conversation that we need to have, those conversations that we want to have.
  • You have to stop going, well, she's gonna get mad if I don't do if I if I do this. Okay. She's gonna get mad. Why are you managing her emotions? Well, if I don't, if I don't go off and do this, she's not ever gonna have sex with me again. Well, first off, you don't know that. You're not a prognosticator.