Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene.The Four Moves That Changed Everything:1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.2. Build Your Network Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.3. Pivot When You Hear "No" My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A "no" doesn't mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn't about you. It's information.4. Ask for Help Closed mouths don't get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.Your next chapter starts with one decision.Ready to build the confidence and clarity you need—in love and in life? 📞 Schedule your dating consultation call with Sade today.

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships with men.Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.That's not your childhood trauma. That's decades of programming about what women owe men.This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That's okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?Schedule a dating consultation call with me and let's map out your path to a relationship that works for you.

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect because you've handled worse.But just because you can handle something doesn't mean you should.I share a coaching breakthrough with a client who discovered she was tolerating poor behavior simply to prove her strength. We discuss why your intuition knows something's off, yet you override it. We explore the dangerous question: "What's wrong with me?" And I challenge you to ask better questions: "Is this the experience I want? What does this relationship cost me?"Your power, confidence, and resourcefulness deserve better than babysitting an immature partner. Stop throwing good years after bad. Start asking about your return on investment—not in a transactional way, but by documenting the truth of your experience.You don't win a prize for enduring what you don't have to endure. Choose yourself.Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a consultation call with me at [https://sadecurry.com/info].

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.Here's what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don't beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn't, you move on. You hold the power.Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald's if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn't exist, then ask men to change.Stop that.Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com and discover how to date with confidence and get married again.

Episode Summary:In this episode, Sade Curry kicks off a new series on what it means to live a relationship-centered life—and why that might be the thing keeping you stuck. You’ll hear Sade unpack the social conditioning that trains women to prioritize everyone else first: partners, kids, bosses, siblings, even exes.Sade breaks down why simply saying “decenter men” isn’t enough—because the issue runs deeper. Women are conditioned to center relationships, period. That’s why even after divorce, you might still feel pulled in every direction and unable to start the business, write the book, or just book your doctor’s appointment.This episode gives language to what you may have been feeling: that you’ve been pouring out for others while putting yourself last. Sade shares stories from her own life and coaching practice to show how shifting your focus—centering yourself—is the first step to real freedom and clarity.You don’t have to blow up your life to change it. You can make grounded, intentional shifts toward the life you want.Ready to stop putting yourself last? Let’s talk. Book a free consultation call with Sade Curry and explore how private coaching can help you reclaim your time, focus on your goals, and create the life you want—without losing the people you love.👉 Book your call hereNew episodes dropping all month. Follow to stay updated.

Welcome back! Sade returns after settling into Miami city life to share a powerful observation from her coaching practice: mental clutter drains your energy and blocks your goals—especially your dating life.You might think romantic relationships cause most of your mental overwhelm. But Sade reveals the truth: women carry exhausting thought loops about everyone—parents, bosses, children, friends, even strangers in the grocery store. This hyper-awareness of other people's comfort steals your time, focus, and energy.Sade shares real client stories: One woman spent nine hours each workday in a panicked rush, worried she wouldn't finish on time to make her dates. The rushing changed nothing—she left on time 50% of the time regardless. Another client obsessed over her husband's betrayal, unable to handle finances or make plans.The solution? Identify your mental clutter. Notice what occupies your mind all day. Recognize how these thought loops drain you and prevent action on goals you care about.This is the deeper coaching work Sade does—not just helping you meet a partner, but clearing the obstacles that stop you from doing what you know you should do. Your brain, personality, and situation are unique. Generic "ten-step plans" don't work because they ignore your specific barriers.Ready to clear your mental clutter and achieve your dating goals? Schedule a complimentary consultation call with Sade before November 25th. Visit sadecurry.com/info or reply to any email.

Discovering the Best Version of Yourself After Divorce with Bee QuammieReady to meet the woman you become after divorce? This episode will change how you see yourself and your future.Bee Quammie, multimedia storyteller and author of The Book of Possibilities, joins host Sade Curry to share raw truths about rebuilding after divorce. Bee is a Jamaican-Canadian multimedia storyteller: a writer, podcast host, TV personality, and public speaker. She’s written for publications like The Globe and Mail, Men's Health, Chatelaine, Refinery29, Essence, and more. Bee is a guest host and commentator on several Canadian television and radio shows, like CTV's The Social and CBC’s The Next Chapter. She’s also a highly sought-after public speaker with the National Speakers Bureau, offering keynotes across North America. She writes and speaks on topics like race and culture, parenting, mental health, and pop culture — and her debut book, an essay collection called The Book of Possibilities, was published by Penguin Canada in 2025. Bee lives in the Greater Toronto Area with her two daughters.Bee breaks down the difference between being married, going through divorce, and thriving as a single woman - and why she loves the version of herself she is now most of all.What You'll Discover:Why "know the version of you that you like best" changes everything about datingHow to tell the difference between loneliness and being alone (they're not the same thing)The surprising way to reconnect with pleasure through your five sensesWhy nice guys aren't always the answer - and what to look for insteadHow to set boundaries that men actually respectThe secret to celebrating small wins on your path to thrivingBee shares her honest journey from losing herself in marriage to discovering self-love that creates armor against outside noise. She talks about solo trips to Curacao, learning to laugh at her own jokes, and why she approaches dating as fun rather than a job interview.This conversation tackles the shame around divorce, the pressure women face to follow scripts that don't serve them, and why breaking those narratives leads to better relationships with yourself and others.If you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to validate who you are and start loving the woman you're becoming, this

234.  Unshaming Divorce and Honoring Life with Kendell LeniceAbout This EpisodeWhat if divorce isn't a mark of failure, but a brave act of self-advocacy?This week, I sit down with Kendell Lenice, certified life coach and author known as "The Remix Coach." Kendell shares her powerful story of being divorced twice, her healing journey, and how she found love again when she wasn't even looking for it.If you've ever felt shame about divorce or wondered if you'll find love again, this conversation will shift your perspective completely.What You'll LearnDivorce Doesn't Define YouWhy walking away from a marriage can be the bravest thing you doHow to stop letting shame keep you in bondageThe difference between staying married for love vs. staying for reputationThe Real Work of HealingKendell's HEAL acronym: Honor Everything About LifeWhy you must examine your childhood patterns and traumaHow to forgive yourself for past relationship choicesFinding Love After HeartbreakWhy Kendell wasn't looking for love when she met her current partnerThe importance of vetting (yes, we dive deep into this!)How to stay open to love without being desperate for itRed Flags and Green FlagsRecognizing gaslighting and emotional manipulationWhy your discernment matters more than giving endless graceThe difference between healthy and toxic relationship patternsKey TakeawaysDivorce can be mature, not shameful. Sometimes two good people just can't figure it out together.Do the healing work first. Know who you are so someone else can't persuade you to be someone different.Vet, vet, vet. Don't give away all your requirements upfront - let people show you who they are.You are enough with or without a relationship. A partner should be an addition to who you already are, not your completion.About Kendell LeniceKendéll Lenice, affectionately known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, national speaker, author, and host with over 20 years of experience helping people transform their lives and relationships. Through her podcasts, powerful talks, and coaching, she mixes wisdom, humor, and h

In this heart-to-heart conversation, I sat down with Heidi Freeman, successful attorney and author of "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love." Heidi shares how turning 40 sparked her quest to understand what true love looks like by interviewing couples in strong relationships. What began as research turned into 11 core themes about authentic connection. With refreshing honesty, Heidi opens up about her 104-date journey, complete with hilarious mishaps, surprising insights, and the beautiful moment when she finally met her husband Will.This episode cuts through the anxiety about modern dating to remind us that love requires resilience - and is worth 100 disappointing dates.Key MomentsTurning 40: Heidi realized she didn't know what true love looked like or felt like and decided to interview couples in solid partnershipsResearch: Heidi interviewed 50+ couples separately to find themesMutual reciprocity: The most impactful insight was how partners take turns supporting each other through life's wavesThe myth of love at first sight: No one Heidi interviewed mentioned this - instead they talked about initial connection and safetyD04 dates: Heidi shares both hilarious dating disasters and meaningful lessons learnedFinding Will: How she met her husband through yoga connections and recognized the difference in how she feltDating in the wild vs. apps: The benefits of meeting people through activities vs. onlineQuotes"I had to put on my big girl underwear and go back out there." - Heidi on persevering after dating disappointments"I think it's not us. This is the way we are socialized...to value relationships, which is awesome. But then we're also socialized to put our own personal value in relationships, and that's what's harmful." - Sade Curry"Mutual reciprocity and safety... even if you didn't have all the other sprinkles in a relationship, but you had these, you could make a good relationship out of that." - Sade Curry"What if the next date is him? I would constantly say that to myself when I didn't want to go." - Heidi on staying hopefulAbout Heidi:Heidi Freeman (formerly Goldstein, born Eisman) is a successful attorney and partner at a large law firm specializing in environmental law and soc

In this episode, I dive into why asking questions is both an art and a crucial skill on your dating journey after divorce. Most women I work with struggle not because they lack intelligence or communication skills, but because the drama attached to dating turns question-asking into self-sabotage.You might think asking questions is straightforward, but are you using them to protect yourself or to people-please? Both approaches block authentic connection and prevent you from gathering the information you need to make wise decisions about potential partners.Key InsightsCuriosity is your superpower: Approach dating with curiosity—not just about your date but about yourself. Your reactions hold valuable information about your patterns.The protection trap: Going into dates with a rigid checklist of questions turns dating into an interview. You miss crucial nuance and context when you're focused on checking boxes rather than truly connecting.The people-pleasing pitfall: When you avoid asking important questions because "you don't want to be nosy" or "you don't want to chase him away," you sacrifice your needs for a stranger's comfort.Reclaim your authority: Dating involves meeting a stranger, knowing them for months, and potentially committing to them for life. This requires active participation, not passive acceptance.Your dating rights: You have the right to know about people who want access to you. You deserve to have potential partners earn your trust through honesty and transparency.Practical TakeawaysStart with broader questions about lifestyle, career goals, and weekend activities before diving into deeper topicsDesign questions based on your core values rather than using generic listsPay attention to how someone responds—defensiveness, vagueness, or dismissal tells you something importantRecognize when you falter in asking important questions and get curious about what's happening within youRemember timing matters—questions should match the relationship phase you're inDating After Divorce WisdomThink about it: we've known our siblings, cousins, and best friends our whole lives. Yet romantic relationships expect us to meet someone, know them for months, and commit to them forever. That&apo

Work with Sade: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointmentContact Dr. ToyinGet the book: https://www.tfalandchi.com/authored-book10 Minutes with TFal: https://www.tfalandchi.com/10mins-with-tmfalWebsite: https://www.tfalandchi.com/Shownotes:In this episode of the Dating After Divorce podcast, Sade Curry interviews Dr. Toyin Falusi Nwafor, affectionately known as T-Fal, who shares her journey of writing her book 'The Decade After' and her experiences navigating life after divorce. Dr. T-Fal emphasizes the importance of self-care, support systems, and personal growth during the challenging process of divorce. The conversation explores the unique experiences of divorced women, the impact of divorce on relationships, and the significance of how we use time in the healing process. Dr. T-Fal provides insights on how to empower oneself and support children through the transition, highlighting the need for understanding and compassion in the journey of healing. In this conversation, Dr. Toyin discusses the complexities of divorce, emphasizing the importance of understanding statistics in relation to individual experiences. She highlights the critical role of parenting in mitigating the negative impacts of divorce on children and stresses the need for a supportive network during such transitions. The discussion also touches on the challenges of navigating singleness and dating post-divorce, advocating for self-awareness and personal growth throughout the process. In this engaging conversation, Dr. Toyin and Sade Curry explore the complexities of dating and relationships after divorce. They discuss the importance of being honest with oneself about intentions in dating, the journey of reconnecting with past partners, and the significance of transparency in new relationships. Dr. Toyin shares her personal experiences of navigating love and companionship after divorce, emphasizing the need for intentionality and self-discovery. The discussion culminates in reflections on the future and the possibilities that lie ahead, highlighting the importance of embracing change and growth.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Dr. Toyin Falusi Nwafor02:37 The Journey of Writing 'The Decade After'06:34 Navigating Divorce: Unique Experiences and Resources11:50 The Impact of Divorce on Relationships14:04 Time Hea

Masterclass - "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction"Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclassMarch 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT)You will learn:The science behind attraction patternsHow brain chemistry influences choicesTechniques to reduce attraction to toxic partnersDefining your needed level of attraction for sustainabilityAbout the Episode:Shift Your Attraction from Toxic Men to Safe, Healthy Men (Kim’s Story)Before Kim worked with me on her business, she told her journey to love on the Dating after Divorce podcast (Episode 152)After a toxic marriage, Kim had a revelation: "No one was coming to save me. If I wanted a different life, it was all on me"At 35, living with her parents, Kim decided to date against her usual "type."When her dog died, she approached her neighbors' son—a "good boy" completely unlike her typical "bad boys"—and invited him on walks.The walks were uncomfortable because she felt unworthy next to someone without baggage or poor life choices.But they fell in love, because Kim redefined attraction.With previous relationships, she described feelings as "exciting" but chaotic.Coming from a chaotic family, she had mistaken intensity for love.Her previous relationships were "exciting" but destructive.With her current husband, attraction feels different: "It's a partnership. Very calm, not emotionally charged all the time"Biologically, women are drawn to the strongest "buck"—evolutionarily sensible for survival instead of choosing based on companionship and values.You might initially find this "boring."But Kim questioned: What's boring about peace?What's exciting about fighting over a parking space and being too angry to enjoy the concert?Her most profound insight: "Part of why I dated bad boys was because I got to feel better about myself. At least I wasn't on drugs."With her husband, she couldn't feel superior—and that's what made her uncomfortable.In the end, Kim chose calm over chaos, partnership over drama, growth over stagnation. And it changed everything.Kim&ap

Client Success: How Ashley Went from a "Painful Divorce" to "Healed and In Love"Work with Sade: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointmentConnect with Ashley: https://calendly.com/ashleykingcoaching/30minEpisode SummaryIn this episode, Sade and Ashley King discuss Ashley's transformative journey after divorce, focusing on healing from trauma, recognizing readiness for dating, and navigating the challenges of finding love again. They explore the importance of core values, honesty in dating, and the significance of self-discovery in building healthy relationships. Ashley shares her experiences with various dating apps, her connection with Michael, and the ongoing growth in their relationship, emphasizing the importance of communication and negotiation in love.Key TakeawaysAshley began her journey of healing before her divorce was finalized.The importance of self-care and addressing trauma during the healing process.Recognizing when one is ready to start dating again is crucial.Anticipating challenges in dating can help prepare for the journey ahead.Honesty in communication is vital for a successful dating experience.Core values play a significant role in shaping dating profiles and experiences.Dating can be an adventure filled with fun and learning.Building a connection with someone requires time and openness.Falling in love involves recognizing and embracing vulnerability.Ongoing growth and communication are essential in nurturing a relationship.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Ashley's Journey02:49 Healing from Divorce and Trauma05:41 Recognizing Readiness for Dating08:44 Anticipating Challenges in Dating11:40 Guidelines for a Healthy Dating Experience14:00 Core Values and Personal Growth17:17 The Dating Experience Begins20:09 Navigating Early Dates22:59 The Importance of Abundance Mindset25:55 Finding the Right Match29:16 The Love Story of Ashley and Michael34:06 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics38:52 Choosing Between Connections42:46 The Importance of Relationship Negotiation47:00 Introducing Kids into Relationships48:24 F

In this episode, I dive deep into a breakthrough moment from our recent Dating After Divorce Collective coaching call. Here's what we unpack:Key Insights:Why shame triggers show up in your dating journey and how societal narratives impact your dating confidenceThe real reason dating feels hard (hint: it's not because "all the good ones are taken")How fear of wasting time leads to either dismissing potential partners too quickly or staying too long with the wrong onesWhy perfectionism and the need to "get it right" keeps you stuckPersonal Growth Takeaways:Recognize that everyone is "winging it" - even those who seem to have it all figured outTransform your relationship with making mistakes in datingBuild unshakeable self-compassion as your foundation for dating successPractical Dating Tips:Release the pressure to make perfect decisionsGive yourself permission to be in the learning processOwn your dating choices without defaulting to blaming othersReady to Reinvent Your Dating Life?🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call.

Tired of dating feeling like Groundhog Day? In today's episode I share the proven framework that helps my clients break free from dating frustration and create real results. If you've hit a wall with dating apps, feel stuck in negative patterns, or wonder why nothing seems to work - this episode is for you.Episode Highlights:🔍 Why traditional dating advice fails divorced womenThe trap of jumping on and off dating apps without a strategyHow "putting yourself out there" without skills leads to disappointmentThe real reason why having 100+ first dates might not lead to finding your personThe fairytale vs. reality mindset shift that changes everythingWhy treating dating like a growth project (not a shopping trip) creates successHow one client found love by committing to 2 parties per week for 5 weeksReady to Reinvent Your Dating Life?Stop hoping things will magically change and start creating real transformation. I walk my Dating After Divorce Academy clients through this exact framework, providing support and accountability every step of the way.🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call.Resources Mentioned:Podcast Episode 6: Phases of the Dating JourneyRemember: A reinvention isn't about small tweaks - it's about creating a radical shift in how you approach dating and relationships. Let me help you make that shift.

Let's talk about a pattern I see in many divorced women - the reluctance to fight for the relationship they want. Through the lens of "learned helplessness," I explore why capable, strong women who fought for their first marriages often hold back in their post-divorce dating journey.Key Insights:The difference between fighting for a specific person versus fighting for your desired relationship outcomeHow past relationship trauma creates false beliefs about our dating optionsWhy validating dating struggles with friends can keep you stuckThe truth about effort: dating takes more work than we expect (just like everything worthwhile)Ask yourself: "Why am I not fighting for this relationship goal with the same determination I bring to other areas of my life?" Your answer reveals where to focus your energy.Book Reference: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman - A foundational text for understanding how we can break free from learned helplessness patternsReady to break free from dating paralysis? Schedule your 1:1 consultation at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment. Let's create your personalized strategy for finding love after divorce.