We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide.Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:How to Master Lotus PositionHow To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a ProVIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text:

Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac SignLow-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your SexEnigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)BetterLover.comMore Susan Bratton: Instagram | WebsiteSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram |

So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac SignLow-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your SexEnigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)4 Ways to Close the Orgasm GapFirst Date, First Orgasm, First ThreesomeSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook |

Ever wondered how often happy couples have sex? Or the little-known key to sexual satisfaction? In today’s Sex In The News episode, I reveal new research that answers both of these questions and a surprising new finding on who says “I love you” first. First, my Producer, Erica, and I look at a study on sexual frequency and the number of times per month couples have sex. Is it this often for you? Next, we dig into research on men saying “I love you” -- do you agree with our takeaway? We then get into amazing new research on mutual masturbation and give you easy ways to try it. Finally, we explore a study on sleep health and sex. Turns out, an orgasm might be more effective than sleeping pills.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette5 Ways To Do It Doggy StylePromescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)Mutual Masturbation & Other GuidesSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text:

What are your sexual fantasies? No matter how unique (or not) your fantasies are, they teach us something about our needs. On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re exploring fantasies and partner dynamics so we can get our needs met shame-free. First, cuckolding: when a partner, typically male, asks their partner, typically female, to have sex with another man. What if your partner wants it… but you’re not so sure? Next, living with your ex -- if you’re still not over them, how do you successfully connect with others? Later, when you’ve got a unique kink or fetish, how do you talk about it with your partner, especially if they’re freaked out? Is there any way to get that need met? Finally, when a partner says they’re not sexually attracted anymore, how do you call it quits and find the sex you deserve?See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette5 Ways To Do It Doggy StyleSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up HereWant me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out? I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice VoyeurismVIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up HereWant me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here fo

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play.Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice VoyeurismPlaydrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook |

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves?See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:7 Signs of Sexual CompatibilityOral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex LifeWhere Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWhere Should We Begin? Card GameMating in Captivity: BookshopThe State of Affairs:

Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina7 Signs of Sexual CompatibilityMagic Wand Mini MassagerSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)Grand Bullet by Le WandWe-Vibe Tango XJe Joue MimiWe-Vibe Touch X Clitoral VibratorPjur Original Silicone LubricantWe-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring

“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner?See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest VaginaGlow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & NobleGlow Getters Journal ClubMore Tara Schuster:

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you?Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:Is My Penis Normal?How to Have Honeymoon Sex ForeverTOR 3 from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)Dildos on Shop With EmilyProstate Toys on Shop With EmilyPlugs on Shop With EmilyThe only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social:

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.Show Notes:Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex ToyIs My Penis Normal?6 Essential Sex Toy HacksMorgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)We-Vibe Pivot Cock RingDame Fin VibratorOhmibod Lovelife & Rev Finger MassagerLe Wand Grand Bullet VibratorThe only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more?

It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the BedroomIs My Penis Normal?SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)System JO Flavored LubeSystem JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Limited EditionSystem JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: NeapolitanPolysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | AmazonOpening Up, Tristan Taormino:

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:Prostate Play: The Comprehensive Guide5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the BedroomVIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Si

This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives?See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:6 Essential Sex Toy HacksHow to Train Your VaginaSONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up HereWant me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower6 Essential Sex Toy HacksDual Stimulation Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69)Insertion Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69)Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social:

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the ShowerVIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample)Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other GuidesWomaness (code EMILY for 20% off)SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureWant more? Sex With Emily: HomeLet’s get social: Instagram

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women.See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.comShow Notes:The 6 Best Masturbation Toys10 Ways to Use Lube During SexPodcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells AllThe Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon@ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopauseMenopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop |

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily.Show Notes:The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can HaveThe 6 Best Masturbation ToysSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)Playground Lubes: Love Sesh | Date Night | Mini Escape | After HoursJe Joue MimiWe-Vibe TouchORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your PleasureS

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play.Show Notes:6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your WeeknightsThe Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can HaveSHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample)Je Joue Massage CandlesLe Wand Crystal WandLe Wand Stainless Steel HoopFirefly Glass DildoSystem JO Flavored LubesCurvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase: