How we talk about miscarriage—or don’t talk about it—matters. Miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences a family can endure, yet we rarely speak of it. The silence is deafening, and it creates a culture of isolation for families bearing these lost gifts.Dave and his wife recently experienced the pain of miscarriage, and he wanted to discuss it publicly with Brittany Lee Allen, author of Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Grief, and the God of All Comfort.At the same time, many Christians—and Churches—are not handling miscarriage in a way that reflects the reality of what we believe about life in the womb. If we truly believe that a pre-born child is a person with an eternal soul, then these children should be celebrated—and mourned—communally.This is a hard conversation, but a necessary one. It is also a reminder of the hope to be found in the God of all comfort.For more information on receiving Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Grief, and the God of All Comfort please click here. https://www.equip.org/product/cri-resource-lost-gifts-miscarriage-grief-and-the-god-of-all-comfort/Thank you for joining Commitment to Reality, hosted by Dave Hanegraaff. Follow Commitment to Reality wherever you get your podcasts.Also discussed on this episode:Why the Church should break the 12-week ruleThe Emotional Prosperity Gospel — and what it costs grieving ChristiansWhat well-meaning Christians say that hurts the mostPraying the Psalms as a school of lamentWhy our culture is so eager to look away from deathSuffering as gift — a paradox most of us would rather ignoreThe parents who keep counting children no one else sees“How many kids do you have?” — and the answer miscarriage makes us quietly weigh(Timestamps below.)0:00 — Why is it so hard for us to talk about miscarriage?1:45 — My parents named and buried their miscarried child—and never stopped counting her6:45 — My first experience with miscarriage15:30 — The paradox of rainbow babies and our second experience with miscarriage19:15 — Being happy in your situation, even if you’re not happy with your situation20:30 — The Emotional Prosperity Gospel23:00 — The importance of lament in the life of a Christian26:00 — Why should we break the “12 week rule” for pregnancy announcements30:40 — The Church needs to be the Church32:30 — We are called to be the hands and feet of Christ38:00 — Praying the Psalms39:15 — Pregnancy after miscarriage is a battleground of fear and anxiety46:30 — How should we talk about miscarriage? Also—what not to say?53:00 — The Church needs to lead the way in changing how we discuss miscarriage57:35 — Discussing infertility1:00:00 — Becoming a parent is hard, but it is worth it1:05:40 — Lost Gifts1:07:30 — Theology of Suffering—Is suffering a gift?1:11:00 — Why are we so eager to ignore the reality of death?1:14:25 — How parenting connects us with reality1:16:50 — How many kids do you have? (Are we answering honestly?)