I'm a woman trapped in a man's body analysing dating advice for women given by a man. In #505 of 'Meanderings', Juan and I discuss: three dating and relationships books (The New Rules, Get the Guy by Matthew Hussey and Attached), how prescriptive “rules” aimed at women can backfire, why some advice feels outdated (Facebook walls and BBM), how scarcity games tend to attract the very players you might want to avoid, why attachment styles are useful as a lens but less so as a to‑do list, a focus on authenticity over mere effectiveness, watch the influence of your friend circle, understand how strong male sexual drive can shape dating dynamics, apply Pareto principles to health and appearance first, build an interesting life (travel, skills, community) and learning to read yourself so you don’t try to fill loneliness with just anyone.No boostagrams this week, very sad puppy.Stan Link: https://stan.store/meremortalsTimeline:(00:00:00) Intro(00:00:47) The books: The New Rules, Get the Guy & Attached(00:04:21) Lot's of Don'ts(00:07:12) Perfectionism and the hunt for Mr Right(00:11:09) Who this attracts: playing games gets game players(00:16:21) What men reportedly dislike(00:20:25) Quick verdict on The New Rules & Switch To Matt Hussey(00:25:48) Practical prompts: compliments, conversations, and friendly vibes(00:30:15) Brief detour to Attached: anxious, avoidant, secure(00:39:24) Boostagram Lounge(00:41:15) Effectiveness vs authenticity: advice for daughters(00:45:00) Masks, faking confidence and why acts won't last(00:48:00) Be interesting: travel, stories and easy conversation openers(00:55:14) Broad advice: the male mind, sex drive, and expectations(01:02:26) Pareto squared: health and appearance(01:07:09) A raw moment: walking through Brisbane and feeling loneliness(01:11:24) Closing reflections  Connect with Mere Mortals:Website: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/Discord: https://discord.gg/jjfq9eGReUTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/meremortalspodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meremortalspodcasts/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meremortalspodcastsValue 4 Value Support:Boostagram: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/supportPaypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/meremortalspodcast