<div id="thread-bottom-container" class= "sticky bottom-0 group/thread-bottom-container relative isolate z-10 w-full basis-auto has-data-has-thread-error:pt-2 has-data-has-thread-error:[box-shadow:var(--sharp-edge-bottom-shadow)] md:border-transparent md:pt-0 dark:border-white/20 md:dark:border-transparent print:hidden content-fade single-line flex flex-col"> <div id="thread-bottom"> <div class= "text-base mx-auto [--thread-content-margin:--spacing(4)] @w-sm/main:[--thread-content-margin:--spacing(6)] @w-lg/main:[--thread-content-margin:--spacing(16)] px-(--thread-content-margin)"> <div class= "[--thread-content-max-width:40rem] @w-lg/main:[--thread-content-max-width:48rem] mx-auto max-w-(--thread-content-max-width) flex-1 mb-4"> <h1>Don't Blame Your Parents Or Anyone Else</h1> <div class= "relative basis-auto flex-col -mb-(--composer-overlap-px) [--composer-overlap-px:28px] grow flex"> <div class="flex flex-col text-sm pb-25"> <article class= "text-token-text-primary w-full focus:outline-none [--shadow-height:45px] has-data-writing-block:pointer-events-none has-data-writing-block:-mt-(--shadow-height) has-data-writing-block:pt-(--shadow-height) [&:has([data-writing-block])>*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-68429ab0-d338-800c-96c4-a023c498401f-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-461" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> <div class= "text-base my-auto mx-auto pb-10 [--thread-content-margin:--spacing(4)] @w-sm/main:[--thread-content-margin:--spacing(6)] @w-lg/main:[--thread-content-margin:--spacing(16)] px-(--thread-content-margin)"> <div class= "[--thread-content-max-width:40rem] @w-lg/main:[--thread-content-max-width:48rem] mx-auto max-w-(--thread-content-max-width) flex-1 group/turn-messages focus-visible:outline-hidden relative flex w-full min-w-0 flex-col agent-turn" tabindex="-1"> <div class="flex max-w-full flex-col grow"> <div class= "min-h-8 text-message relative flex w-full flex-col items-end gap-2 text-start break-words whitespace-normal [.text-message+&]:mt-1" dir="auto" data-message-author-role="assistant" data-message-id= "ef4e9bd0-57a3-4904-b03b-8c74d5ceb12e" data-message-model-slug= "gpt-5-2"> <div class= "flex w-full flex-col gap-1 empty:hidden first:pt-[1px]"> <div class= "markdown prose dark:prose-invert w-full wrap-break-word light markdown-new-styling"> <p data-start="357" data-end="377">Who are you blaming?</p> <p data-start="379" data-end="453">The weather?<br data-start="391" data-end="394" /> The economy?<br data-start="406" data-end="409" /> Your ex-boss?<br data-start="422" data-end="425" /> Your trauma?<br data-start="437" data-end="440" /> Your parents?</p> <p data-start="455" data-end="561">In this deeper dive from the FMQ seed <em data-start="493" data-end="521">"Who or What Is to Blame?"</em>, I take you through something powerful:</p> <p data-start="563" data-end="618">Blame feels like a reason… but it's actually an excuse.</p> <p data-start="620" data-end="655">And here's the uncomfortable truth:</p> <p data-start="657" data-end="707">If you stop blaming…<br data-start="677" data-end="680" /> what happens to your story?</p> <p data-start="709" data-end="796">In this episode, I walk you through two simple but life-shifting processes to help you:</p> <ul data-start="798" data-end="1003"> <li data-start="798" data-end="842"> <p data-start="800" data-end="842">Let go of resentment and emotional baggage</p> </li> <li data-start="843" data-end="872"> <p data-start="845" data-end="872">Reclaim your personal power</p> </li> <li data-start="873" data-end="918"> <p data-start="875" data-end="918">Release blame without denying what happened</p> </li> <li data-start="919" data-end="961"> <p data-start="921" data-end="961">Stop living at the "effect" side of life</p> </li> <li data-start="962" data-end="1003"> <p data-start="964" data-end="1003">Move back to cause — where choice lives</p> </li>

Paul Clough

A podcast for those wanting personal development but want it made simple and easy to understand and more importantly use, take action and make a difference to your life and the world you live in. If you want to change the way you feel and the way you act and react. If you have negative emotions, behaviours, that you want to lose forever and create something special in your life then I think you will like what you hear. This genre of self-improvement, self-development and mastery of your mind has, I believe, been made over complicated and secretive and here I am de-constructing the processes into their simple forms that we can all understand and easily use. There's no interviews just little ol' me ;0) Who am I and what do I do?………Paul Clough. I now love helping making changes in people and guiding them to create the life they really want. A personal look at me: The above sentence was not always the case and being the best in the financial realms of the building industry was my aim and getting there by any means. I now know this is, and was, the worst way ~ even if I did make director of one of the largest building companies in Cambridge by the age of 30. One of the major realisations came on my first ever training in hypnosis. I found that it's not a win lose world and that a win win is only a low basis to live. Being true to your beliefs and coming from a place of integrity where service is paramount. This understanding together with lots of NLP skills helped create my last partnership in the building industry grow from a turnover of £800k to £16m in less than twelve years and that can only be done with giving more than expected. Another shaping of me came from two traumatic events in my life that happened within six months of each other which created a number of major changes in me and by beliefs in what is possible. I have written about my experience and how I dealt with it but more importantly it really showed me my love for my three boys and theirs for me and resulted in the step up to become a trainer of NLP (which I never intended) and my close and exciting work with two of my sons. In supporting Joseph and help create change in people in our training's and his wonderful life changing 'Be your potential weekend' and with Luke the continuing development of Cambridge Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis processes. My relationship with my third son Daniel just keeps getting better and better too. Not knowing how good I had become in change work in the beginning I generally studied, practiced and saw clients then things started to happen when I started to work following just my instincts. Two clients come to mind both in effect dying from the effects of what was happening to them and the way they felt and within one and two sessions respectively not only won the will to live they changed virtually in front of my eyes and being apart of that process was and is the best feeling alive. The above are just three of many brilliant learnings I have had in my life. The more formal bit Paul Clough I am a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP and Hypnosis and am passionate in assisting those who want to reach their full potential and his special skills form a unique foundation for success. I constantly seek and develop new skills and learning's – through advanced levels of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy ™, Hypnosis and to improve everyone I work with. I have an understanding of the mind/body connection which enables me to create in my clients the difference that makes the difference ~ from excellence to outstanding. For those that want qualifications: Certified Trainer and Consultant of Neuro-Linguistic Programming Certified Master Practitioner of NLP & Time Line Therapy Certified Master Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

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