Listener Roberta submitted a question recently on YourParentingMojo.com/question:   What does the research say are the decisions that really matter in parenting?   That question immediately got my brain churning about what could be included, and how we would decide what to include, and how much of what's included could actually be research-based.   The episode begins with a look at some of the major categories of factors that impact our children's development that we may not have as much control over, because we have to acknowledge these before we can look at what we do impact.   Then I look at some of the things we do control but I think we can pretty safely stop worrying about them. The impact that each of these things has is likely to be so tiny as to individually meaningless.   Finally, I count down my list of the top 5 things that I think impact children's development.