The Art of Charm
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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

Social anxiety has an impact that goes far beyond a discomfort interacting with people and can lead to substance abuse, depression, and suicidal ideation, so what can you do to overcome your social anxiety, how do your diet and physical health impact it, and how is technology playing a significant role in all of this? What to Listen ForWhat is social anxiety and how do we deal with it during COVID-19 when social distancing is important?How do we deal with social anxiety now that social distancing is becoming a normal part of our daily lives?How did Mark Metry overcome his social anxiety and what can you learn from his journey so you can overcome your social anxiety before it ruins your life?How does your gut microbiome influence your social anxiety and mental wellbeing?How can looking at yourself in terms of hardware and software with regards to your self-development journey blow open your perspective on your overall health?Why is it important to tackle social anxiety after you’ve established a strong physical and mental foundation with a healthy diet and regular exercise?What can you do to make sure you’re using technology and it’s not using you?How is social anxiety tied to substance abuse, depression, and suicide and what can you do to overcome your social anxiety so you can live a more fulfilling life? Many of us deal with social anxiety in varying degrees and in different situations. Someone might experience social anxiety talking to a group of people but be perfectly comfortable saying hi to a stranger. Someone else might experience social anxiety talking to their boss at work, but feel right at home at networking events. For some of us, it’s a mild obstacle we force ourselves through when we need to, but for others it can be a serious concern and have long lasting effects on your potential and happiness, not to mention your lifespan if it leads you down a path of self-isolation and depression.  Social anxiety can feel overwhelming, but you can overcome it. You can bounce back and become the best version of yourself that you want to be. But you have to be willing to take that first step and start living a healthy life - your mental and emotional well being are directly influenced by the food you put in your mouth and how often you exercise the only body you get. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Mark Metry’s Website Humans 2.0 Podcast hosted by Mark Metry Mark Metry on Twitter Screw Being Shy by Mark Metry Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Rituals are powerful tools cultures have used for all of recorded history to strengthen group bonds, so how do rituals bring us closer, why are rituals so commonly associated with religion, and what can you do to develop your own rituals to bring you and your family and friends closer together? What to Listen ForWhy is it so important to encourage curiosity in children and what can you do to impart a sense of curiosity in your kids?Why is a tolerance for ambiguity difficult but crucial in the scientific search for knowledge and understanding of the world around us?What was it like growing up as the child of Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan?How do we use rituals to deal with change and how can you use rituals to minimize the suffering you will experience throughout life?What should you say to someone who has just lost a loved one and doesn’t necessarily hold religious beliefs about an afterlife?What rituals can we use to help us cope with painful events in life and why can not having a ritual amplify the intensity and duration of the pain?How can having a simple regular ritual strengthen your relationships and what fun easy ritual can you start using today?What is the difference between a routine and a ritual?How can you get children involved in building family rituals so everyone is involved and the family grows stronger?What can you do to remix old traditions or even create new ones you can use to build meaning in the big and small moments of your life?How do you tell the difference between cynicism and skepticism, and why can that understanding completely change your view of people? The word ritual is on many occasions associated with religion. That’s a logical jump to make considering how ritualistic many religions are. But rituals can be any kind of practice or routine you use on a regular basis to be present and share a moment or event with yourself or other people. We can create and use rituals in our lives to help us celebrate certain moments. We don’t have to use religious holidays to celebrate certain times of the year, as cultures have been creating their own holidays and celebrations since the dawn of man. And no one’s stopping you from celebrating the rituals of your faith(s) and creating some rituals of your own to celebrate your family or friends or even just yourself.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Value Driven Success Video Training by The Art of Charm For Small Creatures Such as We by Sasha Sagan The Art of Charm Bootcamp Sasha Sagan’s website Sasha Sagan on Twitter Sasha Sagan on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Charisma is not something you are born with, so what can you do to develop your own charisma, what does it even mean to have charisma, and what does the science say about this seemingly abstract human quality? What to Listen ForWhat is charisma and why is it important?What are the three factors that go into being charismatic and what can you do to become more charismatic?Are you born with charisma or is it something you can teach and learn?Why are we drawn to charismatic individuals?How can you stay true to yourself and be charismatic if you don’t feel you’re a charismatic person?How do presence, enthusiasm, and confidence play a role in your natural charisma?What questions can you ask yourself to know exactly what to work on to become more charismatic?Why is active listening integral to being charismatic, and what can you do to improve your ability to listen?Why are people drawn more toward optimists than pessimists, and how can you become more optimistic?Why does it make you more charismatic if you don’t care what other people think about you?What can you do to become more confident?How does being assertive contribute to your confidence and charisma? Charisma is one of those human qualities many people refer to as if it’s some mysterious genetic gift a few people are born with. But what if I told you that you can develop your own charisma in the same way you can develop a skill - like painting, running, or even chess. Once you understand the three components that factor into your own charisma, you’ll be able to see just how straightforward it can be to become the most charismatic version of who you want to be. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow. Resources from this Episode Charisma: An Ill-Defined and Ill-Measured Gift Episode 725 - Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael Ventura Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Authenticity is a powerful concept because many of us are scared of what other people might think of us if we were to be as weird as we know we are all the time, and consequently many of us hide the fun and interesting bits that make us who we are - so why do we care, why should we stop putting so much emphasis on what we think others want us to be, and what can you do when every social platform is signaling to you that the only parts worth living are the ones that get the most likes? What to Listen ForWhat does it mean to be a disruptive innovator?How do you educate people without being preachy?What can you do to build up a tolerance for rejection so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities just because you walked away at “no”?If you have perfectionist tendencies, what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you from completing something or just moving on without it?What can you do if you feel like you are trying to fit yourself into a box that society wants for you rather than what YOU want for you?What does it mean to be more authentic in today’s world where so many people are encouraged to instead put on a show to get other people’s attention?How can you flip negative emotions on their heads with one simple trick?What can you do to encourage others to tell their stories without resorting to 1-2 sentence responses?How can you ask questions that evoke thoughtful responses instead of 1-2 words?What mental exercise can you do before any important thing or event you have coming up in your life to make sure you’re genuinely present and relaxed?What can you do to come across as open and friendly without making people think you’re inviting them to ask you out?How do you politely reject someone who asks you out, especially in a work environment?What’s the best way to make a career change when you realize you’re not happy with the job you thought would bring you happiness?How do you handle the argumentative person who constantly questions others’ beliefs? What are you supposed to do when people are telling you you should always strive to be genuine while society clearly shows us we’ll be rewarded if we present a curated image of ourselves to everyone on social media? We live in a tricky time with technology developing as quickly as it is. The tools we are inventing are beginning to control us and highlight our weaknesses as human beings, but will we overcome these weaknesses or implode because of them?  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Miki Agrawal’s website Disrupt-Her: A Manifesto for the Modern Woman by Miki Agrawal Hello Tushy Be Here Now by Ram Dass Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Company culture might conjure silly images of bag chairs and free lunch to some, but company culture is much more than hip amenities and it can break an organization if it’s dysfunctional - so what is a dysfunctional company culture, how do you risk losing your best talent unless you improve it, and is any company too big or too old to change its ways? What to Listen ForWhat two areas of business do you need in order to successfully run a business?What are the 5 dysfunctions of management and what can you do to overcome them to build a world-class company culture people want to work with? Why is a willingness to be vulnerable and admit when you don’t know something important to developing a healthy company culture?Is conflict avoidance a good or bad thing in the workplace, and how should you approach disagreements and potential arguments?What does it mean to be trustworthy in a business environment and how can you identify someone who isn’t trustworthy before their failure becomes your failure?What should you do after realizing you are bringing dysfunctional behavior to an organization?What exercises can you do to build trust within your organization, regardless of whether you’re in management or not?What is the number one job killer for an individual within a business organization and what can you do to solve it without spending a dime?What three things do people need at work to love going to work every day and how can you provide those three things without Why is efficiency overrated and effectiveness underrated, and how can a drive for efficiency push out all the people who matter to your organization?What 3 qualities do you need to be a great team player, and why can missing just one of them lead to a disaster? Company culture is not about giving your employees more benefits, amenities, or unlimited vacation. Among other things, it is about trusting the people you work with, supporting open and honest communication, recognizing the contributions of others, and leadership/management that embodies healthy conflict resolution and leading by example. Without those things clearly communicated and reinforced from the top down, it’s only a matter of time before people get hired that do not believe in the same ideas, which leads to an organization where managers and leadership taking credit for their teams, people feeling isolated and unappreciated, and everyone looking out for themselves rather than the collective good.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick Lencioni The Motive: Why So Many Leaders Abdicate Their Most Important Responsibilities by Patrick Lencioni Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team Patrick Lencioni’s Company Website - TableGroup Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Meditation and mindfulness have experienced a resurgence in modern western society as people continue struggling to find peace and fulfillment amidst the chaos and materialism of the modern world - so what can meditation teach us about our place in all of this, and how can we incorporate meditation into our daily lives to make us better friends, coworkers, lovers, and humans? What to Listen ForHow long should you meditate?What does science say about meditation?What’s the minimum effective dose of meditation?What time of the day is best for meditating and when should you avoid meditating?Why is it so important to be clear with yourself about your intentions?What is the biggest misconception about meditation, especially when it comes to type A personalities? What is the difference between practicing meditation and practicing mindfulness, and why does it matter?What is meditation supposed to be about, and what do many people mistakenly think it’s about?How did meditation first start and how has it evolved over countless human generations?What does the word “mantra” mean with regards to meditation and why is there such an emphasis placed on having a mantra?What can you do to develop your own mantra to make your meditation practice more personal, more purposeful, and longer-lasting?How often should you revisit your mantra to decide whether or not it’s time for a new one?What questions should you explore when meditating and how can the wrong questions lead you to a negative mental space? Meditation is not about silencing your mind. Your mind’s sole purpose is to generate thoughts, so to think you can stop your mind from doing the one thing it’s supposed to do is like convincing yourself you can stop your heart from beating and keep living. Meditation is about accepting your thoughts and feelings and then learning to let go of them because they are not you. You experience thoughts and feelings - you are not your thoughts and feelings.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! CBD is a big deal right now. It is changing millions of peoples’ lives every day - but is it right for you? Harrelson’s Own was formulated to provide full mind and body benefits that help you feel more stable, calm, focused and collected. If you’re curious, they have a fun and informative video for you to learn more. Text our special discount code CHARM to the number 6-3-5-6-6 and they will send you a link to watch their video AND give you 10% off your purchase! Resources from this Episode Stay Woke Give Back Tour Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us by Justin Michael Williams Justin Michael Williams website Justin on Facebook Justin on Twitter Justin on Instagram Justin on Youtube Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Fear and rejection are natural parts of life, but if you want the most out of life, fear and rejection are two things you will face on a regular path to achieving your dreams - so what can you do to not only accept them but build a positive relationship with both, allowing you to channel their energy for your own forward momentum? What to Listen ForHow do you handle the fear of uncertainty in today’s job market when the economy is changing so rapidly?What can you do to overcome the fear of rejection we all experience?What exercise can you implement right now to start putting rejection into perspective and even look at rejection in a positive light?How can you choose to look at failure so it helps you rather than stopping you from going after the life you want?What is the difference between a perfectionist and a progressionist, and why can one hinder your success? How can you break away from humility to tell a story worth sharing?What are the 4 ways you can use to tell an engaging story people are going to want to give you their attention for? An average life is average because doing great things is terrifying. That’s not to say an average life can’t be fulfilling, but many people dream of being able to live a life on their own terms. And to build a life where you have everything you want and can spend your time how you want to spend it requires that you put yourself outside of your comfort zone regularly. You must be willing to face your fears and walk through them. You must be willing to get knocked down by life only to get back up again and keep trying. If you want to find your soulmate, statistically you have to meet a lot of people, which means you’re going to be rejected a lot before you find the right one. If you want to find that dream job that allows you to spend your time doing something you love while being paid for it, you’re going to need to try a lot of different things and work for a lot of different people/companies before you find the right fit. You must be willing to try, fail, and try again. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! This winter, start a new routine to upgrade your everyday life with a monthly Box of Awesome from Bespoke Post. Bespoke Post sends guys only the best stuff, every month. So whether you’re looking to commemorate an occasion with a champagne saber or toast perfectly aged Winter cocktails - they’ve got you covered. Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at BoxOfAwesome.com and enter the special discount code AOC at checkout. CBD is a big deal right now. It is changing millions of peoples’ lives every day - but is it right for you? Harrelson’s Own was formulated to provide full mind and body benefits that help you feel more stable, calm, focused and collected. If you’re curious, they have a fun and informative video for you to learn more. Text our special discount code CHARM to the number 6-3-5-6-6 and they will send you a link to watch their video AND give you 10% off your purchase! Resources from this Episode Better Selling Through Storytelling by John Livesay The Successful Pitch Podcast hosted by John Livesay Be The Lifeguard of Your Own Life! | John Livesay | TEDxWilmingtonLive Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

To many of us, the word values can sound like a buzzword thrown around in corporate-speak via emails and quarterly earnings calls - but individual values, once understood, can lead to a future of incredible potential, so what are the values we’re referring to, and what can you do to determine your values so you can live the life you’ve always wanted?  What to Listen ForWhy is it important for each of us to determine our individual values, and how does living by those values help you to not make terrible decisions?How do you choose your values?What is the problem with goals, and why is the setting of goals not enough?What questions can you ask yourself to determine some of your basic values?How do you decide on company values, and why is it important for your company’s success to find employees who share those values?What are the company values of the Art of Charm?How did AJ Harbinger determine his values and how have they guided him to success?Why does more discipline in your life lead to more freedom?How did Johnny Dzubak determine his values and have they guided him to success?What exercises can you implement today to track whether or not you are living by your values? If you don’t choose the script for your life, others will do it for you, and there’s no guarantee the script will be conducive to your happiness and fulfillment in life. Your script is dictated by your values, and you can either decide what your values are and live an intentional life driven by them, or you can live a life that is subject to the values of others. If you choose not to choose and understand your values, it can result in a life of self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy, and being used by the people around you who are firm in their values or know how to take advantage of people who don’t stand for anything. So, what do you believe in? A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Resources from this Episode Great Leaders Have No Rules by Kevin Kruse Art of Charm Bootcamp Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

People skills are always important, but when it comes to money, fame, and power, it takes some skill and experience to learn who your friends are and know who is getting close to you because they want something from you, so how do you know who you can trust, and what can you do make sure you don’t get taken advantage of? What to Listen ForWhat made Violet Benson start the Daddy Issues Instagram account?What can you do to move on after a relationship falls apart that you feel you’ve totally invested yourself in?How can you develop confidence and get rid of that nervous energy you feel when doing something for the first time?What does it even mean to “get to know” more people? How much can you really know about someone and how do you know when you can trust someone? What can you do to alleviate tension in conversations with dominant personalities?  Life is not a friendly game. As humans, large groups of us around the world have managed to carve out a relatively friendly existence, but there will always be those we don’t get along with and those who just like to see the world burn. Social skills are the new survival skills - we need them in order to survive in society as well as to get ahead and thrive. And the more we get ahead, the more we need them. Fortunately, social skills are just like any other skill in that they require practice and experience in order to improve them A Word From Our Sponsors Bespoke Post - Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at boxofawesome.com use code AOC at checkout Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Daddy Issues on Instagram Violet Benson on Instagram Too Tired to be Crazy podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Adversity has shaped humanity into who we are now - the most dominant and inventive species on this planet - so what can you do to stop looking at adversity as a roadblock and start looking at it as a necessity to becoming who you want to become? What to Listen ForHow can you know when you should trust your gut and when you should trust logic?What can you do to develop your own sense of intuition?Why is embarrassment integral to learning and mastery of a skill?What are the biggest social skills deficits in the workplace today and what should you focus on if you don’t want to lose out on that next job or promotion?What areas of your life should you focus on if hard work is not enough to get ahead in today’s world?How do you make your own privilege and create advantages for yourself in life that no one can take away from you?Why is it so important to think about the intent of a message vs the impact?What can you do to build advantages against biases people might have toward you? What is Laura Huang’s EDGE acronym stand for and how can you use it to gain an edge over your competition?How do you ask questions at a new job without coming across as incompetent? If we lived in a world without adversity, what challenges would you face to make you a better person mentally, emotionally, and physically? Many of us wish our lives were easy (or easier) but might not realize how important it is to our development that we are challenged on a regular basis. Unless you experience disappointment, how can you learn to set expectations? Unless you lose someone you care about, how can you learn how to cope with loss?  Every time you are faced with adversity, it is an opportunity to learn something about yourself and life. You are the product of billions of years of life facing adversity and adapting to deal with it - there’s no reason it has to stop now that you’re stressed out about a job promotion or exam. Face your challenges head-on, use them to your advantage, and learn from them. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Edge: Turning Adversity into Advantage by Laura Huang Laura Huang’s website Laura Huang on LinkedIn Laura Huang on Instagram Laura Huang on Facebook Laura Huang on YouTube Laura Huang on Twitter Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

The tendency to self-sabotage is a part of who we are as humans, but many of us don’t even know when we’re doing it - so what can you do to identify the areas in your life when you tend to self-sabotage and what steps can you take to prevent self-sabotage in the future? What to Listen ForWhat is self-sabotage and why do we all do it in some form or another?How do we self-diagnose our own self-sabotage and what can we do to stop it so it doesn’t damage our relationships or professional career?Are New Years Resolutions the best way to making changes in our lives, and what should we do if they’re not?What is the biggest misconception surrounding self-sabotage?How do we strengthen our willpower so that in times of potential self-sabotage we don’t fail?What is the L.I.F.E. acronym and how can you use it to identify the areas in your life where you are prone to self-sabotage?How does social media affect our tendency to self-sabotage and what can you do to prevent it?Once you identify the triggers that cause you to self-sabotage, what can you do to change them?What is the difference between diffusing a thought and fusing with one, and why should you try to always avoid one of the two?How do lofty goals lead people to self-sabotage and how should you approach goal setting in a way that doesn’t lead you to feel like a failure when you don’t achieve your goals?What can you do to define your values so you can live a fulfilled life?When you have identified changes you want to make in your life, how do you develop a blueprint for change that you can use to structure and plan the journey to becoming a better version of yourself?How do you avoid self-sabotage in romantic relationships?How much time should you spend on self-development? Self-sabotage is a tendency we have as humans to create problems for ourselves that get in the way of what we want from life. This tendency can be triggered when we find ourselves in a place of uncertainty or fear, so a great place to start in identifying your own self-sabotaging behaviors is to stop and think the next time you find yourself unsure of what to do next or how to solve an issue in your life. Rather than acting instinctively, take some time and think about how you would normally act in that situation and whether that gets you closer to your goals or pushes you away. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Stop Self-Sabotage by Dr. Judy Ho Dr. Judy Ho on Twitter Episode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit with Dr. Steven Hayes Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Talking to people we don’t know can be uncomfortable and sometimes terrifying, so why is it so important that we become comfortable with it and overcome the fear, what does science say about the value of talking to strangers, and what can you do to become a master of meeting new people? What to Listen ForWhy is it easier for introverts to talk to strangers than friends and family members?Why is it scary for us to talk to people we don’t know and what can you do to overcome that fear?What is a digital device security blanket and how does it put a wall up around each of us?What does science say about the value of small talk with strangers and how can it prevent you from feeling isolated and disconnected from the world around you?Where is the best place to meet new people and what should you say when you introduce yourself?How do you use shared experiences to strike up a conversation with someone you know nothing about?When is it appropriate to compliment a stranger and how do you decide what to compliment someone on?What is a transactional question and how do you ask one without shutting down the conversation before it’s even begun?Can you ask too many questions in a conversation? The more comfortable you are with talking to strangers, the greater your opportunities become. It’s a simple numbers game. If 1 out of every 100 people could connect you to a great job offer, a new friend, or a romantic partner, then doesn’t it stand that the more people you meet, the greater your chances become of landing your dream job, making new friends, and finding a great partner? If you are uncomfortable with striking up a conversation with someone out of the blue, your connections and relationships will always be limited to the people already in your social circle and chance encounters (with people who do like striking up conversations with strangers). You only get one life - don’t leave your fate up to chance. Take control and go after what you want.  A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Episode 719: Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship Art of Charm Bootcamp Art of Charm Network Is Efficiency Overrated? By Gillian M. Sandstrom & Elizabeth W. Dunn The stare as a stimulus to flight in human subjects: A series of field experiments Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Finding your voice as a creative can be difficult and frustrating, so how do you stay true to yourself while pushing the boundaries of your work, what can you do to balance the quantity of output versus the quality, and how do you get buy-in on your creative vision when you’re just starting out? What to Listen ForWho does Matt Komo draw inspiration from and how did he get started in film?What can you do to develop your confidence as a creative when it feels like you’re surrounded by people making better content than you?How do you balance quality vs quantity as a content creator?How do you find the balance between your creative side and the business sideWhat can you do get buy-in on your creative vision and get the necessary support to follow through to completion?How much of telling a story falls on the medium itself and how do you change the way you tell a story from one medium to the next?What can you do to handle the creative differences that inevitably arise between you and a client?How do you open yourself up to larger possibilities if you have no frame of reference for what is possible?How do you self-assess the difference between arrogance and confidence? As a creative, it can be easy to get bogged down by comparing your work to that of other people, especially in today’s world where a simple search can result in countless examples to top-notch work. Fortunately, only you have your perspective on life and your story to tell, so your truth and your voice are unique to you. It will take time and hard work to find your voice, but once you do, no one can take it away from you. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Matt Komo’s YouTube Channel Matt Komo on Twitter Matt Komo on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Twitter The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

You are pitching anytime you attempt to convey an idea, and pitching effectively in today’s world of short attention spans is getting harder and harder, so what can you do to break every pitch down into 3 minutes, improve your own pitching skills, and make sure that next pitch doesn’t cost you a job, an idea, or a relationship? What to Listen ForWhat can we do to practice our pitching skills?When are we NOT pitching our ideas or ourselves?How do you stand out in a sea of dozens or hundreds of other pitches?What are the two forms of information being conveyed in a pitch and what can you do to balance them so one doesn’t overpower the other and ruin your pitch?Why are the first 3 minutes of a pitch the most important and how do you make them count so you don’t waste your time?What does it mean to have an inform and lead approach to your pitch and why is it so important in today’s world of hyper-sensitive consumers?What are statements of value and how can using them change your career forever?What is the WHAC acronym, how does it relate to the statements of value, and how does it bring everything together to help you build the ultimate 3-minute pitch?How should you approach follow up after you’ve made a pitch and what should you avoid doing at all cost?What is the telephone challenge and how can you use it to understand what parts of your pitch are the most valuable and least valuable? You are pitching anytime you are trying to get other people to believe an idea you have. It doesn’t matter if those people are your coworkers, friends, potential customers, or a board of directors - you are pitching, and to be great at pitching requires a different approach now than it did in the past. The era of smooth talking salesmen making grandiose claims and trying to reel you in is over. Our attention spans are shrinking and we have become desensitized to ideas that sound too good to be true. It’s time for the facts. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode Episode 790 How To Resolve Conflict Like A Martial Artist with Judy Ringer Brant Pinvidic’s website The 3-Minute Rule by Brant Pinvidic Brant Pinvidic on Twitter Brant Pinvidic on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Conflict resolution is not a skillset that comes naturally for most of us because our egos will always want to defend us by proving we’re correct at the expense of actually working to a resolution, so what can we do to understand the psychology of conflict resolution and improve our conflict resolution skills? What to Listen ForWhat core psychological principles cause unnecessary conflict and what can you do to deal with them?What are the different phases of conflict resolution?What can you do to develop the skills required for effective conflict resolution and how can they save you from sabotaging your jobs, friends, or relationship?How did Judy Ringer get her start in conflict resolution?During conflict, why do we default to wanting to be right instead of being curious about the other side, and what can we do to flip that switch so we can deal with conflict more effectively?How can using open questions instead of statements or closed questions lead to an environment better suited for conflict resolution?What does it mean to take responsibility for a conflict even if you’re not actually at fault for what happened?How do you reflect on recent conflicts in order to learn from them and develop your conflict resolution skills?What can you do to journal your conflict resolution journey in a way that helps you grow?What simple tips can you implement to start redirecting conflict toward resolution rather than escalation?As a manager, how do you ask the right questions when trying to resolve a conflict between your employees?What markers can you look for to detect conflict under the surface that might not be apparent at first glance so you know when to step in and stop a spark from growing into a wildfire? Conflict resolution is a skill most of us have to work on intentionally and consistently because our default as humans is to “resolve” conflicts by proving we’re right rather than trying to understand both sides and come to an actual resolution cooperatively. The best place to start is by recognizing the moment a conflict arises and making the decision to ask questions instead of proving you’re right. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. This Fall, start a new monthly routine that’ll upgrade your life and style with a Box of Awesome from Bespoke Post. Bespoke Post sends guys only the best stuff, every month. So whether you’re looking to craft your own hard-cider or toast perfectly aged Fall cocktails—Box of Awesome has you covered. Get 20% off your first monthly box when you sign up at BoxOfAwesome.com and enter the special discount code AOC at checkout. That’s Box of Awesome dot com, special discount code AOC for 20% off your first box. Resources from this Episode Episode 697 - High Value Conflict Resolution Judy Ringer Turn Enemies Into Allies: The Art of Peace in the Workplace Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Leadership skills is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot yet can mean many different things depending on the person using it, so what does “leadership skills” really mean, what does the science say about the value of leadership skills, and what can you do. What to Listen ForWhat traits do you need to bring to the table as a leader and what can you do to develop them?Why is a strong frame necessary for effective leadership?What does it mean to have a strong frame and what can you do to build one?What tools and techniques can you start using today to be a more effective leader?How do you build leadership skills?Are leadership skills applicable outside of the workplace?What is the CAKE equation and how can you use it to build confidence?What does science say about the value of leadership skills?What are the two leadership styles and which one do we tend to associate with leadership even though it’s not as effective as the other in the long run?How do you work on or start building your leadership skills in your personal life? It might come as a surprise to some that leadership skills are just as important in your personal life as they are in your professional life because being a leader doesn’t automatically imply ordering people around. That is a specific aspect of leadership and one that great leaders rarely resort to. Being a leader within your social circle can just mean taking the initiative in organizing the next poker night or girls’ night out instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Being a leader can also mean encouraging and supporting your friends in hard times and celebrating them in their successes. Leadership means having the confidence in yourself to raise up those around you without expecting anything in return. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Need a stylish, lightweight, and durable suitcase with a 100-day money-back guarantee? Away creates thoughtful products designed to change how you see the world. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com and use discount promo code CHARM20 during checkout! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Frame Analysis: An Essay on the Organization of Experience Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Storytelling might seem like a skill reserved for dinner parties and family gatherings, but we actually use it in our everyday lives, many times without really knowing it - so what can you do to be more aware of when you’re using it, when you should be using it, and how not using it could be leading you to miss out on crucial opportunities for professional and personal growth? What to Listen ForHow did Laura Beil get her start in podcasting?What level of skepticism around the modern healthcare system is appropriate in today’s day and age where you can find countless horror stories throughout the internet?How can you guide people you’re interviewing to tell better stories in response to your questions?What kinds of questions can you ask someone if you want more in-depth answers or explanations?How can you improve your empathy in situations where you’re listening to someone talk about a tragic event in their life?What can you do to bring fresh energy into meetings with your storytelling skills?How do you keep a conversation interesting and lively for hours with someone you have little to nothing in common with? We use storytelling abilities in our everyday lives because we are either asking other people about themselves or vice versa. A good storyteller knows how to answer questions in a way that intrigues people and keeps them engaged in a conversation as well as ask people the right questions that get them to open up and feel comfortable talking about themselves, both of which deepen the connection between them. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. Resources from this Episode Laura Beil’s website Dr. Death - podcast by Laura Beil Bad Batch - podcast by Laura Beil Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Many of life’s most powerful lessons come from stories of men and women living through dark and ugly periods in history - but why do we relate to these stories so strongly, what’s the best way to tell a story from your own life about adversity or a struggle you endured, and how do you know when such a story is ready to be told? What to Listen ForWhat story from history first hooked Daniele Bolleli into pursuing history?How do you remove the bias or spin from news stories in today’s digital era?What made Daniele Bolelli realize he wanted to start podcasting?How do you tell a story in a way that people actually care about the characters involved?How do you find or build in a hook when you’re trying to figure out the best way to tell a story?How do you balance the dark side of a story with the lighthearted side so neither one pushes the audience away?What can you do to add humor to dark stories in a way that doesn’t feel forced or out of place?What can you look for in a story you want to tell if you want to know if it’s ready to be told?How has Daniele Bolelli’s experience in podcasting influenced his own personal storytelling? Stories from history provide us with archetypes and allow us a glimpse into the human spirit to see what we’re capable of when faced with insurmountable odds or overwhelming tragedy. And one of the most valuable lessons we can take away from all of the stories from history is that everyone involved was human. This is important to remember because we as humans have a habit of disconnecting from people who have accomplished great things and committed great atrocities. When we’re able to identify with the person on a basic level we can be inspired to act as well as develop empathy for those whose lives lead them down dark paths. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day. Resources from this Episode Daniele Bolelli’s website Daniele Bolelli on Twitter History on Fire Podcast - most recent episodes available on Luminary Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Humans are storytellers by nature, so the ability to tell a great story is something we can all learn and develop over time - but where do you start if you want to become a great storyteller, what is the structure of a great story, and how do you practice if you’re not already a public speaker? What to Listen ForWhat does science tell us about why storytelling is so powerful?What can you do to be a more compelling storyteller?What steps can you follow to tell unforgettable stories?What are the 4 basic steps of storytelling and how can you apply them in everyday life to become a great storyteller?What simple game can you play with family, friends, or strangers to test and improve your storytelling ability?Why are emotions such a crucial aspect of great storytelling and what can you do to incorporate them into your stories?What is the Angel’s Cocktail and how does it make for an unforgettable story?How should you approach storytelling in a professional setting like a networking event versus a personal setting like hanging out with friends or being on a date?How do you tell an engaging story when Powerpoint is involved and what should you avoid doing at all costs?What are the key things you should pay attention to in the audience when presenting?What are the 5 layers of communication and how does knowledge of them tell you who is trustworthy and who is not?What mindset should you adopt to better handle the Q & A after a talk or presentation? Storytelling is a skill like any other, but that means to become great at it requires you to practice it - how can you become good at anything without adequate repetition? But unlike many other skills, storytelling is something you can practice every single day with anyone you talk to. Just think about something that has happened in your life, large or small, and tell the story of it through the 4 basic steps discussed in this episode. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode How to Avoid Death by Powerpoint - TEDx Talk The Magical Science of Storytelling - TEDx Talk The 110 Techniques of Communication and Public Speaking - TEDx Talk JPUniversity - David JP Phillips’s school for storytelling David JP Phillips Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Storytelling is the glue which has held humanity together over tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years - but why are stories so important to us, what goes into creating a great story, and what can you do turn any story from your life into a great story worth telling? What to Listen ForWhy is storytelling such a valuable skill to have in personal and professional relationships?What can you do to tell engaging and compelling stories?Why is your storytelling ability important for making new friends, building a network, and dating?How does your storytelling ability make or break your performance in sales?Why do many of us focus on the wrong things when telling a story and how is it hindering you socially and professionally?Why are stories so powerful in conveying information and connecting us?How do you structure a story so you’re captivating the listeners and they can’t help but remember you?What is the Hero’s Journey and how has it been used throughout history to structure famous stories in mythology, religion, and literature?What are 8 steps can you follow to turn any story into a great story?How do you turn an average story into a great story?What are the do’s and don’ts of storytelling?What do people connect with most in stories and what puts them off?What is the “curse of knowledge” and how does it hurt your ability to tell great stories? Humans have likely been telling stories since we first stepped foot on this earth. It is one of our defining features in the animal kingdom and it is the thing that enables us to live and work together in groups, from families to communities to companies to nations.  Storytelling is indeed an art, but an art with a structure. This structure has been passed down through the ages and can be found throughout the world in various cultures, which means it can be taught and learned. If you want to create strong relationships in your personal life and professional life, then you need to become a great storyteller. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Skillshare is an online learning community with thousands of classes for creators, entrepreneurs, and curious people everywhere. You can take classes in Film and Video, Marketing, Productivity, and even Entrepreneurship! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for our listeners: Get two months of Skillshare for free by going to Skillshare.com/CHARM. Equal Parts is here to help you get into the flow of home cooking, with inviting cookware and coaching designed to introduce new ideas and keep you engaged with the process of cooking, one step at a time. Get into the rhythm of the kitchen, with friendly and inviting cookware, coaching, and guidance from Equal Parts. All with free shipping and free returns. Visit equalparts.com and use discount code CHARM get $50 off any cookware kit over $200! Resources from this Episode The Art of Charm Bootcamp Cooperation and the Evolution of Hunter-Gatherer Storytelling Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube