1 Simple Thing Podcast | Build a Better Business by Building a Better You!
Dave Kirby
Welcome to the 1 Simple Thing Podcast, where we help you "build a better business by building a better you." 5 days a week we feature guests who are experts in life...marriage and family, health and fitness, emotional spiritual and mental health. You know...the things that we often overlook, but can have a dramatic impact on our quality of life. Each day you’ll get 1 Simple Thing you can do to start down the road to change. No big list, no unattainable goals. Just 1 Simple Thing.
When you hear the word retirement, you probably don't imagine yourself scrambling to pay your bills in your golden years. But for too many Americans, that's the fate that awaits unless they take steps now to plan for the future. Whether you’re twenty-five and starting your first job or fifty-five and watching the career clock start to wind down, today is the day to get serious about your retirement. On this episode, Dave recaps episodes 386-389 where Chris Hogan shares some financial and retirement advice from his book, “Retire Inspired: It's Not an Age, It's a Financial Number”

Chris Hogan says, when you start to realize the importance of your financial future, you begin to understand who’s an ally and what’s an enemy. Debt is not an ally. Debt takes away from your income. It demands a payment each and every month. Chris wants us to see debt for what it is, and be smart by intentionally getting rid of debt and keeping it out of your life.

Chris Hogan talks about how obstacles are not stopping points; rather they are proving grounds. It’s important to acknowledge that the obstacle is there, but you can overcome it if you have a plan on how you are going to defeat it. What are you going to do to overcome those obstacles so you can move forward for yourself and your family?

Chris Hogan wants us to understand one key fact: retirement has nothing to do with your age, it has everything to do with a financial number. So it’s not about 65, 62, 70, it’s more about how much money we’re going to need to be able to live the lifestyle we want to live in the future.

Chris Hogan says it’s important for all of us to understand the power of our dreams. We all have things we want to do, and it’s important to tap into them because dreams are a better motivator than fear. Fear will motivate you for a little while, but it doesn’t last. Why? Because it’s a negative drag on us. But our dreams are an encouraging kind of motivation, so we’re willing to strive and sacrifice for them because we know deep inside what we want to do.

Have you ever admired those successful, confident, motivated, and charismatic people who seem to have it all? They've climbed the corporate ladder quickly or started a great business. Their love life is amazing and they have fantastic friends. They've made all the right connections. They've mastered networking and how to build relationships. On this episode, Dave recaps episodes 381-384 where Jason Treu shares practical lessons from his book, “Social Wealth: How to Build Extraordinary Relationships By Transforming the Way We Live, Love, Lead and Network”

Author Jason Treu talks about how going to the right places is the key to building the relationships you want, both personally and professionally. Use Google and Facebook or Meetup.com to find events in your local community. You can also volunteer to help work the event you are going to attend. Keep asking people where they’re going and what they’re doing, because then you can build a list for yourself.

Author Jason Treu says you can build relationships much faster than you think if you connect with people emotionally. People have had tons of bad interactions, and typically those interactions have consisted of the same old boring questions. If you meet someone in a professional setting people always ask you, “What do you do?” and it’s boring. Instead, ask people about what they love and what they are emotionally connected to, because everyone is emotional. Lead with emotional questions because when you get down to what someone cares about, you get to know them a lot better than you normally would.

Author Jason Treu says the fear of failure, rejection, and uncertainty are often significant problems for entrepreneurs, especially when we’re treading into new territory. Successful entrepreneurs fall on their face at least once, often many times, when doing anything new. But when we embrace the fear and let it guide us, fear can be the compass that gets us to our destination.

Author Jason Treu says understanding that connection is why we’re here, and belonging is in our DNA. We all need to focus on how do we build extraordinary relationships both in our professional and personal lives. You can’t get there by yourself. We all need people to help us, from marketing to customers, to being an advocate for you and your business. Plus, we all want to create profound and lasting connections with people in our lives. On today’s show, Jason will teach us how to go about the process of building extraordinary relationships.

Your success might come down to a simple word…NO. Do you hear it enough? Do you realize the number of times you hear NO is directly related to how many times you hear YES? On today’s Dave is joined by author Andrea Waltz as we recap our conversations based on her book, “Go for No. Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There.”

Author Andrea Waltz talks about staying persistent in embracing and even pursuing “no.” Successful people fail eagerly while failures avoid failing. There seems to be a stigma about failure that makes us feel bad and even want to quit. We think, “I’m probably going to fail, so why even try?” That attitude holds us back from some amazing opportunities because being willing to fail is what creates the chance for success.

Author Andrea Waltz encourages us to track our failure rate. She wants us to be aware of how many times we get a “no,” and even set goals and celebrate how many times we will hear “no.” Tracking your frequency of “no” gives you an awareness of how you are doing and enables you to make adjustments in your message. And celebrating them is a way to make it fun. Remember, the more times you hear “no,” the more times you’ll hear “yes.”

Author Andrea Waltz encourages us to intentionally increase our failure rate, go out and hear “no” more often. When we overcome our fear of hearing “no,” things happen, and opportunities fall into our lap that might never have happened otherwise. Establishing “no goals” tends to drive our activity up, which creates more opportunities for us to hear a “yes.”

Andrea Waltz encourages us to give ourselves permission to fail. When you change your mental model of how you view failure, seeing it as a stepping stone between you and success, it changes what is possible. Usually, we equate hearing the word “no” with a failure, so it’s about seeing the word “no” as a space between you and the “yes.” Instead of giving up when you hear “no,” just increase your “no’s,” and when you do the “yes’” will come.

Your brain is like a computer. It’s like the central processing unit for your body, mind, emotions…everything you are and do. And just like a computer, sometimes we need to change the programming to get the results we’re looking for. On today’s show, Dave recaps episodes 371-374 where Sir John Hargrave shares proven hacks that can help you change the way you think and make you more productive, positive, and happier.

Sir John Hargrave walks us through the process of setting and achieving compelling goals. It’s about imagining what you want to do with your life. Think about how important it is to figure out for yourself where you want to end up. It’s amazing how little time we all spend doing that. Instead, we just float wherever the tides of life take us. But when you start to become the master of your ship there’s no limit to what you can do.

Sir John Hargrave says we have what he calls “loops,” or ongoing, habitual messages we tell ourselves. Usually, they’re just below the level of conscious awareness, embedded in our operating system. He shares a trick to help us develop more awareness of those loops, helping us find the ones that are preventing us from getting where we want to go. We can then reprogram those loops with their more positive alternative.

There’s no end to the digital distractions that surround us. And research shows that the more distracted you are and the more you try to multitask, the less you get done. If you want to be effective and live up to your full potential, get rid of those distractions. Turn it all off and you’ll be more focused and happier.

Studies show that meditation makes you healthier, makes your relationships better, and makes you calmer and more focused. Sir John Hargrave teaches a concentration hack to strengthen that “top-down” attention to make ourselves better able to stay focused on the things we want, like our tasks at work. It also helps us resist those “bottom-up” interruptions like random thoughts and text messages that jump out at us constantly.

Dave shares his thoughts based on his conversation this week with Dr. Mindy Hall. Leadership doesn’t happen by accident; it happens because you take the time to know who you are and how you want to lead. Others won’t just “get it,” you have to present who you are and lead with intention.

Dr. Mindy Hall talks about how an organization’s culture is one of the most powerful levers leaders have for impacting performance. Culture is the social energy built over time that can move people to act or impede them from acting. An organization’s culture is never neutral; it will develop by design or default. The question for leaders then is whether they will actively shape their organization’s culture, or allow themselves to be shaped by it. Culture is not a program that gets implemented; it is built through everyday actions and messaging.

Dr. Mindy Hall talks about what we all know, that perception is reality. Leaders often say, “I’ll let my hard work speak for itself.” That’s a nice sentiment, but the reality is that hard work often doesn’t speak for itself (or at least it doesn’t tell the whole story). You have to speak for your hard work. Hard work can never stand alone as the indicator of ability; to think otherwise is naïve and self-defeating. You must actively shape the perception others have of you and your abilities, not in a self-aggrandizing way, but in a way that does not leave the story of you to be shaped by others.

Dr. Mindy Hall talks about how every interaction is an opportunity. Every action has an impact. Every moment is a choice. Are you choosing the impact you want to have? Often, leaders are rushing from meeting to meeting with no real sense of what they’re walking into or the contribution they want to make. This leaves both the outcomes of the meeting and their own performance to chance. They miss the opportunity to lead from a conscious state and intentionally shape how others perceive them as a leader.

Dr. Mindy Hall says from experience that nearly 80 percent of leaders do not lead intentionally. They are bright, capable leaders that operate out of intuition, pattern, and reaction. Some do so with very strong results, but those who make the decision to be more self-aware and intentional achieve higher-level results than those who continue to operate primarily from intuition. Developing this aptitude is possible and begins the moment you look in the mirror and begin the process of understanding how you show up, how you affect a room, and what environment you create. In short: notice yourself.

Dave recaps episodes 351-355 and highlights important productivity tips shared by guest Jeff Sanders from his book, “The 5 A.M. Miracle: Dominate Your Day Before Breakfast”

Jeff Sanders talks about the importance of reviewing our productivity and schedule each week. You can structure the review however you want. The point is that you feel like you understand what you did and what you are going to do. By reviewing your week you will understand what went wrong, what went right, and how you are going to make the week coming up the best it can be.

Author and podcaster Jeff Sanders shows us why it’s important to reach what he calls “equilibrium zero.” That’s a state where you are working from a very clean space. You want to achieve the simplicity of only working on one thing at a time, and that only happens when things are clean and organized. You then get to that state where you can say, “I have processed everything around me so now I can give all of myself to my next task.”

Author Jeff Sanders talks about how to structure our morning routine to help us dominate our day. The actual routine begins the night before. Decide what time you want to go to bed to wake up when you want. You can choose whatever focus you want with your early mornings but having a philosophy or a strategy is important because it helps to know what you want your mornings to mean to you. Knowing your morning objective is important so you can then plan the exact habits you need to accomplish your goals.

We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to plan an entire 12-month period. However, it’s never really effective because most of those goals have been ditched completely by the end of January. By the end of the year, you have forgotten most of the goals you set at the beginning of the year, or you’re scrambling to get them done at the last minute. On this episode, Jeff Sanders gives us an alternative to annual goal setting that is much more effective.

Dave recaps episodes 346-349 where guest Honoree Corder shares lessons from her book, “Vision to Reality: How Short Term Massive Action Equals Long Term Maximum Results”

Honoree Corder gives us the first step to creating a compelling, inspiring vision. Your vision is the less concrete, less defined thing you want. Your vision is the energy and driving purpose behind your goals. When you set your intention, when you have a vision of how you want to feel some day, it can feel a little indefinable. But you still commit to moving in that direction the best you know how. You then identify the first goal you can see based on where you want to go.

Honoree Corder talks about why we need to set big goals. Really big goals. She says you know you’ve set the right big hairy audacious goals when you feel a little nauseous. You’ve got a feeling in the pit of your stomach that says, “I REALLY want that. I have to work hard to make that happen.”

Honoree Corder talks about committing ourselves to Plan A without a backup Plan B. A backup plan offers us another option when Plan A gets tough. But there is some providence that steps in that will help you to find your way when you unrelentingly commit to your goal. You will meet the right people. You will come across the right piece of information. When you trust the fact that you’ve made the right decision for yourself, and you’re moving forward, and you just keep walking. If you are 100 percent committed, then you will get where you want to go.

Honoree Corder talks about how short-term massive action can change our ability to reach our goals. The problem isn’t necessarily that we don’t know what to do, it’s that we want more of what we want RIGHT NOW. So we give up what we want later for what we want right now. We want instant gratification, yet real results don’t happen that way. They happen one day, one choice at a time.

We all want to be the best version of ourselves. We want sharper focus and more energy. We want to make the most of our time and productivity. On today’s episode Dave Kirby recaps and shares his thoughts on his conversations with Erik Fisher, based on his book; “Hit The Mark!: Improve Your Focus, Boost Your Energy and Make The Most of Your Time.”

Author and podcaster Erik Fisher talks about common energy drains, proper energy management, and being attuned to our natural rhythms. Eric shares some simple energy boosters to make you feel better and more productive today.

Author and podcaster Erik Fisher talks about techniques to set boundaries without feeling like a robot. Boundaries can sound hard and restrictive, like a ball and chain. Erik shares that boundary management is really about choice management. To achieve our desired outcome, we must be intentional in making choices that help us produce our best work.

There are two types of time: clock time and relative time. Clock time is 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour. It doesn’t change. Relative time changes based on the amount of enjoyment we get. That’s why we say “time flies.” On this episode, author and podcaster Erik Fisher shares strategies to help you make the most of your time. It starts with finding the things that energize us so much that it’s easy to manage our time and be productive.

We often want to focus on certain changes in our lives, yet we end up somewhere completely different. On today’s episode author and podcaster Erik Fisher talks about focus being “the target.” And just like hitting a target, you must have a clear vision of what it looks like. Today Erik is showing us how to sharpen our focus so we can hit the target every time.

Everything we want to accomplish in life begins with discovering our own “why.” It’s our burning reason and purpose for what we do. All the great leaders in history began with knowing why, and it’s the answer to that question that will lead us to greatness as well. On this episode, Dave Kirby his conversation with Simon Sinek shared from his book, “Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action.”

Bestselling author Simon Sinek says we do not have to know all the answers, and we do not have to pretend we do. And when we are willing to admit we don’t know and ask for help, it’s amazing how many people will want to help us. When we give someone the opportunity to contribute to our lives, that also gives their lives purpose.

Simon Sinek talks about how most of us know what we do, but we don’t have a purpose, belief, or cause that’s driving that decision. When you have a sense of purpose - when you know why - everything begins to make sense. It’s amazing the clarity we get when we have a sense of why we do what we do.

Bestselling author Simon Sinek talks about the power of asking questions. We stop asking as many questions as we should and sometimes we just take things for granted. The great leaders are often like little kids in how they ask questions and consume information. They don’t always agree with everything, but they listen intently to see if there’s anything they can learn. They do less of the talking and more of the asking.

Bestselling author Simon Sinek talks about discovering your own unique why. It’s your sense of purpose, sense of cause, or sense of belief. All the great leaders in the world - whether it’s Steve Jobs or Martin Luther King - had a crystal clear sense of purpose, cause, or belief. They understood their why, and that’s what drew us to them… and inspired us to follow them.

Most of us have only experienced the negative type of networking. Standing around at a party handing out business cards to people you don’t know, hoping to find a needle client in the haystack. On this episode, Dave highlights some of the un-networking strategies Derek Coburn shared in episodes 311-314 from his book, “Networking Is Not Working: Stop Collecting Business Cards and Start Making Meaningful Connections.”

Derek Coburn shows us how to merge client appreciation with networking and, if done the right way, how it can be very beneficial to you and your business. By making existing clients happy, you increase the likelihood of them staying your clients. And through them you gain opportunities to meet more people than you would have met otherwise.

Author Derek Coburn talks about how to build a valuable network without attending networking events. Derek’s method is to host an event comprised of a community of people who have a pay it forward mindset and genuinely want to add value for one another. After you have added tons of value for these individuals, after you have made really valuable connections, and after you have been the one who brought people together in a meaningful way, they are going to WANT to help you any way they can.

Author Derek Coburn helps us upgrade our networking efforts to what he calls “Networking 3.0.” Instead of handing out business cards and looking to benefit yourself, Derek teaches a change of mindset constantly places the focus on your existing clients, and people in your network. In Networking 3.0 you are always mindful of and spotting those win-win connections that would benefit them, not you when you are meeting new people at events.

Author Derek Coburn talks about how we often look at networking as a means to get new customers. But he says our biggest opportunity is to grow our network to better serve our existing clients. The key is to be mindful in helping your clients expand their horizons to help them grow their business.