Of all the podcast episodes I’ve recorded so far - and there are over 50 of them now - the most listened to is the one with Lucy Cowan on Grief, Compassion & Recovery.Lucy is a trained Grief Recovery practitioner and I came across her at a time when several dear friends were each facing into their own grief. The timing, of course, was no coincidence, and the conversation with Lucy has been immensely helpful, not just to me personally but to so many people who’ve listened.The important thing here is that Lucy wasn’t promising an ENDING of the feelings of GRIEF, but rather a way of being with what IS.What Eckhart Tolle calls the ISness in his profound books the Power of Now and Stillness Speaks.At the time of being surrounded by loved ones experiencing their own ISness, I wrote an entry in my journal about how it is to support others when they are going through times of pain.As with all my journal entries - and with everything personal I share here - this is not intended to be ‘an answer’ - every grief, every relationship, every person is perfectly and beautifully unique.What it is is a personal reflection that may spark reflections for you too.It’s titled, simply, DAY 419 - and I share it on the episode.Many of my journal entries are accompanied by letters to My Darling Girl. These are pieces of prose or poetryish - some of which are now gathered in a collection called, appropriately, My Darling Girl.At first I thought they were love letters written to my inner self - but now I realise they are written to all the girls & women we have ever been. This one caught my eye as I was preparing this episode. At the time I wrote it, it meant something very different to me.But, as I’ve realised from the many many messages I’ve received from people who’ve read My Darling Girl, the meaning of these love letters changes with time, and with who is reading them.Today, this feels like it connects with times of love and loss.It is called: I Have YouIf you haven’t yet heard Lucy and her own deeply moving story of love and loss, then I invite you to have a listen https://hennyflynn.co.uk/s4-09-grief-compassion-recovery-with-lucy-cowan.AndIf you’d like to buy any of the books we talk about in any of the episodes, you can find them all on bookshop.org. A brilliant and ethical alternative to Amazon, from which a small proportion will go toward supporting the podcast.Recommended Reading on Bookshop.orgBooks I love - psychology, neuroscience & mindfulness to make & manage deep & lasting changeDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Join the mailing list & receive the mini-course '3 little acts of self-compassion', completely free https://hennyflynn.ck.page/6e83d0227eExplore Henny's coaching, books, retreats, courses & events https://www.hennyflynn.co.uk/